A few years ago I shifted to really enjoying what I love about the holidays. I cleared everything else off that list that lives like an invented book of Expectations/Demands for the Holidays. I write my holiday letter on Valentine’s Day. I decorate a fireplace mantel and a tree while listening to music I love. I watch holiday movies that remind me to keep healing/transforming.
I remember to support my inner Grinch in his grieving process. I hold his petulant hand because that part of me has felt, at times, like a lonely, resentful outsider who wants desperately to be carving the roast beast at a table filled with loving Whos. Or slicing and stir-frying marinated tofu while dancing in a warm kitchen receiving and giving hugs to the many Whos in my life now.
I wish for a time when all the people I love and who love me could be celebrated in a Gratitude/Laugh Out Loud Party at a beautiful nature location. This doesn’t have to happen in December.
This year I will celebrate with simple experiences of being with my daughter, my dear friend, Ruby, my dog, Layla, Miss Hailey, the cat, and my Sweet Love, who is all I really want for Christmas. He can sit under the tree with a bow on his forehead and I’d be overjoyed that this self-aware, gentle, kind, loving, and generous man chose me for another day.
What would you love to do right now? How many people can you say, “I love you!” to in the next 24 hours? How far and wide can you spread your love and appreciation for beloved ones, clients, colleagues, friends, salesclerks, strangers who held doors for you? Can you create this to be how you live your life each and every moment you’re on the planet? What if you are love? What if I am love? Ah, what then?
However you celebrate or choose not to celebrate the many wonderful holidays this season, I wish you- in the very core of you- peace, passionate, unwavering love, and the profound realization that you matter to our world.
May you know that you are loved more than you can even imagine. May you find expanding joy inside your grieving heart. May you know that you are love.