Heart-to-Heart: Time to Confess

Dear Readers, I wish to unravel the absolute pearls of wisdom that helped develop my mindset. It is born out of appreciation for all the discerning readers, writers, thinkers, and change-makers that take the trouble to read my outbursts in these columns. With this humble effort, I desire to share messages from some of the most outstanding ‘leaders’ in individual spheres that helped shape my life. The first attempt landing in front of your eyes covers messages related to creating and maintaining proper balance in life. 

When faced with challenges, I find strength in this powerful insight from none other than Henry Ford: “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” The only exception I expect would come from a life that never faced any challenges. Of course, I would let you be the judge. Abject surrender to any difficulty comes from our lack of self-confidence. To overcome this common pitfall, we must strive to become better at handling our daily affairs. A systematic approach towards solving little riddles helps lay the foundations of an active, analytical mind. Gradual sharpening of our faculties, growing from the mundane to the uncommon tasks, generates the ability to find alternatives to a challenge, the leads into a riddle. These messages lead us to the thus-far evading success. As we continue to work our way to continued mental exercise, the resulting flow of creative juices empowers us with a stronger thought-process. In my case, early childhood lessons from my hard-working parents infused the power to see an opportunity in every difficulty. 


Albert Einstein simplified this riddle in such simple words: “Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.” These words of wisdom can bring about the ever-fleeting balance in our lives, with only a minor adjustment: An endless quest for success continues to push us deeper into the quagmire of unexpected difficulties, challenges, obstacles, and hardships. The resulting desperation forces us further down into the deluge of hopelessness that we want to escape in the first place. The change in direction brings us closer to the ever-flowing tides of mutual help. We feel empowered to ride with ease the stronger currents of support, guidance, and eventual success. We move away from the solitary path of helplessness at every turn to a pleasant journey in the company of like-minded individuals that believe in ‘caring-and-sharing.’ 


Let me ask you a simple question that may better explain the above statement: Would you rather have 100% of a stack of 20X $10 bills, or 1% 0f 100 piles of 100X $5 notes? Confused, let me explain: the first option will give you $200, but the second option, though seemingly lower value, would give you $500. See the difference between an apparent 100% return on solo efforts vis.-a-vis. 1% return on a combined effort of a more extensive gathering of success-seekers, willing to help each other. Gulping down a small helping in its entirety may not necessarily fill our tummy, but repeated smaller bites out of a much larger one will undoubtedly deliver the desired result, right? 


Oprah Winfrey, the ultra-successful television icon, continues to touch her followers’ lives in a hundred different ways. She gives us this sage advice: “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.” In simple terms, she is alluding to the age-old metaphor of ‘glass half-full or the glass half-empty.’ Appreciating what we have gives us a valid reason to celebrate. On the contrary, our continued focus on what we don’t leads us to a never-ending tunnel of hopelessness, inability, negativity, and turmoil. 


I found especially useful the following advice from the fictional columnist Ann Landers: “If I were asked to give what I consider the single most useful advice for all humanity, it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and when it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the eye and say, “I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.” For all practical purposes, the ultimate success resides in our ability to develop the tenacity to take on challenges with a smile, find opportunities in difficulties, and outshine and outlast challenges. But it can only be developed over time, with some necessary adjustments in the way we perceive life. We must develop analytical skills, patience, tenacity, persistence, and the all-too-important habit of giving it a try. To attain any semblance of success in life, we need to let go of our comfort zone and make a move forward. 


In part II, I shall be sharing some more of the related pearls of wisdom that continue to make a difference in my life. But before I do that, your feedback would be highly appreciated!


Thank You!


Bharat Mathur
Bharat Mathur
WHERE goal setting and systematically achieving each one of them has been the ‘Mantra’, where earning trust by delivering value has been an uncompromising principle and where deeply impactful experiences have made an indelible impression to look directly into the eyes of toughest problems and tackling them head-on has been a major cementing glue in the foundation, Bharat Mathur fits the bill, hands down! Creating value for others, out of the challenges his career in the “C” Suite kept throwing at him left, right and center, Bharat now finds solace in being a ‘Guide by Your Side’ rather than a ‘Sage on the Stage with An Eye on What You Buy’! Past 4 decades of Bharat’s life have been no less eventful than that of anyone else in similar circumstances. However, the way he lived from one challenge to another and stayed focused on his goal is clearly visible as much in his Coaching as in his #1 Best Seller Book: “you Are YOU-nique: Realize Your True Worth”! His next book project tackles ‘Internet of things’ (IoT) from the viewpoint of a layman and helps understand this fast-approaching revolution in simple, easy-to-understand language with live examples: “SMART PHONE + I o T = INCOMPARABLE OPPORTUNITIES” Nurturing a number of successful businesses, mentoring a lot more towards astronomical growth and helping them identify and eradicate trouble spots, Bharat has rightfully earned the nickname: ‘Achiever’ Send him Bouquets or Brickbats, Bharat loves it all!

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    • You are absolutely on the mark, Ms. Darlene! I am sure you will be reading about my self-formulated recipe for tenacity, grit, and determination in the following articles where I feel compelled to share the basics I learned from the pearls of wisdom so generously left behind by our ultra-successful predecessors.

      Thank You, With Warm Regards, and A Prayer For All

  1. This is a excellent share Bharat. Thank you
    These incredible people have added to the value Of humanity.and ignite in others by their very own stories and minds that we all have a power within us. We can harness the greatness within and not have to search for it elsewhere. Looking forward to more
    I really appreciate this read as it resonates with the empowerment I too see in me now. We all have it in us. It helps to be reminded and stressed. This life is precious and yours to own.
    Thank you for such an exquisite write up!

    • Thanks a lot, Dear Paula, for your kind endorsement of my confessional growth-process thus far! Yes, you are absolutely right about invoking the power within. However, the guidance so readily available through the experiences and words-of-wisdom left behind by our predecessors act as the catalyst in building the right momentum. Thankfully for me, reading as my first love, helped gather the necessary strength to withstand the trials and tribulations of a tough childhood, deprived of any fun activities, not to talk of luxuries.

      Over the next few articles, I wish to share a lot more of the simple, and yet very powerful words from outstanding achievers that helped shape my life. Trust you will find them relative to your own success in much the same way, if not more.

      With Thanks, Warm Regards, and A Prayer For All

  2. My joy knows no bounds as I read your superb comment here, Dear Cynthia; Thank You! I’m positive nobody can challenge the hidden power of recapitualing the day’s events while sitting in a quiet corner, all by oneself. It lays bare the challenges, the techniques you deployed to overcome the same, what remains insurmountable, and how you could make yet another, more precise, well-calculated attempt at overcoming the same the following day. And of course, being thankful for all the pleasant developments of the day reenergizes us beyond belief.

    No matter how you cut it, such habits help develop a positive mindset, with the added boon of analytical faculties.

    I will be sharing some more of these guiding principals that I continue to follow to this day. Goes without saying, your continued support will act as yet another catalyst.

    Thanks once again, with warm regards, and a prayer for all!

  3. Bharat excellent observations!

    Each evening for 15 minutes, I begin by looking at the graces of the day with gratitude.

    That gives me a lot of clues.

    Thanks for connecting these great quotes and excellent points.

    Over a lifetime of huge challenges, I’ve definitely gotten past impossible situations to find some semblance of a path that led to Being and Doing.

    Action and mindset combine well in difficult circumstances!