I shot up from a sound sleep to the phone ringing.
What time is it?
2 am! Emergency. What’s wrong?
The insurance way someone would be calling me would be because of an emergency.
Eyes still half-closed.
Shouting. I could barely make out the words.
You will never leave me. I’m not going anywhere. This is not over. I will find you!
I was wide awake now.
Oh no, I’m not doing this.
Who are you seeing? I will get him too.
Now you should know I am against cheating at all costs.
Which he knew. He was pushing my buttons.
This isn’t over. I love you.
What? Are you crazy?
This is exactly why this is over. I am NOT doing this anymore!
We clearly can’t communicate from here on out.
I hung up the phone and blocked the number.
This went on for months. He kept getting new numbers to call me from.
Every time my phone rang.
Heart Racing, panic, sweating. I was always looking over my should.
Every time I would block the number a new one would pop up.
Over 30 phone numbers I blocked. 20 to 50 calls a day for a year.
He wouldn’t give up. He was relentless.
How did I ever marry this man?
He wasn’t like that when I met him. He didn’t reveal himself until later.
The day the divorce was final. I changed my number and got the first Goodnight sleep in a year. Peace!
I had a lot of sleepless nights.
A lot of trauma I had to break through.
I did it. It was possible. It is possible.
My advice to you his this. This is not a healthy relationship.
If this sounds familiar to you please know you do not deserve to be treated this way by anyone.
It may be hard.
They may charm their way back in.
They have you on a tight leash and you don’t even know it because it happens so fast.
Little by little the leash got tighter and tighter.
I did a lot of digging deep on myself to overcome this.
Those layers don’t melt away quickly.
I discovered my part. I discovered what I was allowing.
I am grateful for the lessons now because they lead me to this point.
To help other people break free.
I am free. I know my worth. I value myself. I am enough and so are you!