"being clear is kind, being unclear is unkind” ~Brene Brown

Death, I know the discussion we all avoid. But we do need to address it. In the words of Brené Brown “being clear is kind and being unclear is unkind”. Never more true than when it comes to life and death. The grief experienced with the loss of your loved one is all-consuming and heart-wrenching.

We need to and indeed can, manage the #trauma surrounding death far more effectively – simply by having the difficult but necessary #conversations.

There are a number of books out there and the RSP has issued a new report, to help doctors have honest conversations about what lies ahead and ultimately, death.

My lifeline came too late, sadly I didn’t find the amazing book written about death by Dr. Kathryn Mannix, until after my dad’s death. Had I read this before, it would have helped enormously. Please don’t avoid the difficult conversations, we can manage death and our emotional trauma far better with them rather than without them. I hope this is of help to someone somewhere today.


Nik Davis
Nik Davis
NIK DAVIS is a business transformation expert and has spent 20 years in the corporate world. Her comfort zone is order, logic and applying analytical tools to solve complex problems. She is also a keen observer of life, a writer and eccentric. Nik has recently returned to the world of work after taking a career break to spend time with her family. Upon her return, she found that her perspective had changed, as had the world she was returning to. Nik decided to carve out a new place in that world and mould some of it to fit her too. Nik sees life from quirky angles, shaped by experiences and the vast amount of knowledge we now have access to. She likes to write about her experiences and observations. To ‘tell it how it is’ and to find a more authentic way to live, whether in our professional or personal lives. Nik often talks about finding ‘The Third Way’. It’s a philosophy about life, having a personal life as well as a career, making money and being socially generous, being logical and sensitive, living by the rules of a society but not being afraid to challenge them, inspiring others to feel good but not for your own ego, giving rather than taking. Nik wants to make a difference to this world by getting people to see things differently, to try new ways of working but most of all, to re-discover our true selves and therefore reach our true potential. Nik also has two other persona’s: nikdavis which is where Nik writes about her deeply personal experiences of life. Nik runs a facebook group alongside this website to create a safe place for people to discuss the topics that are raised in her blog. Nik’s second persona is Lilly Isabella and this is where she shares her passion of fashion and design.

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  1. The more I encounter death, sometimes very up close and personal, I have come to believe that it’s simply a rebirth into the spiritual world. Like a butterfly escaping its chrysalis I feel the soul requires death in order to cross the boundaries of the physical world thus obtaining that of the spiritual. The difference is that the emotional side of the human psyche clouds our acceptance of this transition because of selfishness, doubt, loneliness and denial. I have always been curious about the biblical phrase “Death where is thy sting”

  2. Great article NIK. For me in the end my grief was healed from deep within, from the part of us that is the closest to a higher power. While we often want and and receive healing from others we do have the power to heal from within. Thank you a touching story my friend.