There is no rhyme or reason to grief
as changing as the waves in the ocean
sometimes barely a noticeable ripple
other times a raging tsunami
to stay firmly grounded in love for those gone
to let the waves break and wash the tears away
to float on the calm still ocean
remembering the precious small moments
of presence shared
letting the emotions ebb and flow
knowing love
as vast as the ocean
is always there
knowing it’s all ok
I am so grateful to Dane because with his comments he kept dragging me back to your post i Linkedin and to rereading your poem.
For me, understanding that grief might also be the emotion for dreams, identities, habits… we have left behind, has made it easier to move on from losses of not only other people but also former selves. There is an honoring in grief for what was that acknowledges that change is not a small thing. For me, that makes change easier because I can still love a lost one, even if that one was me of yore.
And that creates so much more heart space for the people I have lost because shame has been removed from the change process.
Dear Laura, Oh, so beautiful. Thank you for this balm for my heart as I continue each of these versions of grief-many losses-and yet I know, also, “love as vast as the ocean is always there” Yes! And I am well “knowing its all ok”
With heartfelt gratitude,
Laura