When it comes to achieving goals, most of us tend to focus on the future and not the present. Obviously, there is nothing wrong with having a future-oriented vision, but the risk is that it tends to become distorted, making us negative. A great truth, especially for those who have little patience: thinking about success (too far away) in the future can make us feel dissatisfied immediately. We focus only on failures, we stop being positive and confident, and we shift attention from the goal. A huge mistake.
It seems that successful people use a scientifically proven trick to maintain peak performance: no negativity, no sense of failure, and above all, lots of gratitude.
Not a cliché from simple philosophy, but a reality: gratitude gives a deeper meaning and greater value to everything that happens in our lives. It also makes us more serene, and happier, positively influencing everything we do.
Science itself reveals it: numerous psychological research studies have shown that gratitude is strongly and constantly associated with a happier life full of positive emotions and experiences, a better state of health, with a more developed ability both to face adversity and to build stronger relationships. Conversely, a lack of gratitude leads to negativity that hinders our growth. And goodbye success!!
It is therefore clear that it is appropriate to exercise gratitude to be successful.
So, whether one is now accustomed to the glass being half empty or whether optimism is already part of one’s life, it still needs a big positive internal change to put into practice day by day.
Think back to the difficulties overcome, the challenges faced, the moments of defeat that have nevertheless passed, and then focus on where you have arrived, the help received along the way, everything learned, analyzing the mistakes along the way to transform them into lessons learned, grateful for having learned them. It is necessary to train the mind not to lose focus and to put negative thoughts aside.
Eliminate any form of arrogance and presumption: having confidence in one’s abilities and capabilities is necessary, but too much confidence is counterproductive.
If to reach the goal it is necessary to cause damage to other people then we need to stop and reflect: to be successful we always need the help of those around us and, therefore, it is at least advisable to always seek the collaboration that makes life easier and makes everyone happier.
Stopping complaining: complaining is the number one enemy of gratitude. And prevents us from seeing the good side of things, slows down, and shifts the focus.
Ultimately, we must learn to accept that we will not always find ourselves in perfect situations, but it is very likely that, with our commitment and the right attitude, everything can be transformed into an opportunity to learn and grow.
Certainly always seeing the positive side requires great effort, but if we succeed we are happier, more satisfied, and immediately grateful for the results obtained. A state of mind that inspires us and pushes us even further towards the goal.
On the other hand, inner strength and growth only come through continuous effort and struggle. It sounds like a cliché, but it’s pure truth: we need to remember that no one is perfect and that our flaws make us unique and could give us great prominence. Let’s stop dwelling on our weaknesses, let’s just focus on working on our strengths.
