I miss the “healthy hypocrisy” of the past. I refer to those behaviors and that language that is a little diplomatic, a little (considered) “hypocritical” with which people related, especially in the political world and internationally.
Today a politician calls the head of the European Commission a drunkard, whose authoritative exponent has described the government of a member state as racist.
Even if they were both right, the truth is naked and it would be up to the wisdom to clothe it. But maybe the clothes are gone!! There is almost tenderness and nostalgia for Churchill who, provoked by Lady Astor in Parliament (“if I were your wife, I would poison your tea”) replied without hesitation: “and if I were your husband, I would drink it”.
Vulgarity has changed its name it calls itself sincerity. And education has become the symptom of asocial behavior. In public it is enough to say a dirty word to take applause. Only in private do glimpses of ancient hypocrisy persist, but they are increasingly rare. Once, to know the location of the bathroom in the house of others, it was customary to ask: where could I wash my hands? ” Now, if you don’t tell in detail what you’re going to do, you look like a snob.
Is it a snapshot of modern society, too “efficient” to get lost in pleasantries?
I recently read that the terms related to the typical forms of courtesy were predominantly eclipsed, to the advantage of the so-called efficiencyist logic and, obviously, to the detriment of good manners. On the other hand, the curse often used even out of context, has taken the place of slang and idioms, giving rise to a vulgar and low-level form of communication, sometimes adopted even by the leaders of the countries to express their homologation to the community.
Another research published in the Wall Street Journal highlights a highly individualistic, competitive society with little attention to good manners, in which the sense of community has been replaced by a highly competitive spirit. It is no coincidence that terms such as “auto”, “mine”, “personalized” and “me” (which has become the incipit of most conversations) have by far supplanted words such as “gratitude” and “appreciation”.
In short, it seems that good manners must now leave room for the frenzy of the modern world, which has everything, except time for the now “boring” pleasantries.