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Forgiving A Parent While Keeping Your Distance

Dear Janet,

My mother and I have not talked in about 3 years.  I stopped talking to her, because she told several friends and family members many lies about my husband and me.  I’m not sure why she did this.  But, I know she is someone that has always needed a lot of attention and sympathy from people.  This is not the first time she has done this with me or others.

It took me about a year to completely forgive her this time.  I can say I wish her the best, and I hold no anger or resentment in my heart today.  But, I have not wanted to let her back in my life, because I do not want to give her the opportunity to hurt my family again.  I have let it all go and have closure.  I sincerely wish her nothing but the best in her life.

About a week ago, I received a letter in the mail from her apologizing for the things she had done.  I responded with a letter simply telling her I accepted her apology and wished her the best.

I believe she is looking to reestablish a relationship with me from her letter.  I do not want to do this.  Do you believe it is necessary to do so to ‘honor your mother and father’ command from God?  Or, can I honor her with forgiveness but keep my physical distance?

Cindy in Los Angeles


Dear Cindy,

You referenced Exodus 20:12 about “Honor thy Father and Mother.”  Many people forget that is not the whole verse.  This is the only commandment with a promise of blessing attached.  The New Living Translation of this verse says:

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JANET Schlegel is the Owner and Founder of Soul Work Counseling in Minneapolis, Minnesota. She specializes in trauma and relationship issues.

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