Forgive Your Self

Such important work for a human being—
To feel regret,
To experience deeply, broadly the
Words, deeds have on other people.
Staring in the mirror right at a shamefear face
No longer stuffing these feelings
In a dusty box on top of a shelf
In the corner of an attic,
A moldy crate in a
Damp creepy basement, or
Inside the lining of arteries,
Running away from the most
Important muscle.
Forgiving self can be
Immeasurably more difficult
Than forgiving cruel words, deeds of others,
The silent complicity of indifferent ones.
Attached to
Nice Girl
Kind Girl
Sweet Girl
Quiet Girl
Silent Girl
Invisible Girl
Oh to Look at *Ugh*
Mean Girl
Jealous Girl
Resentful Girl
Salty Sailor Mouth Girl
Cornered Animal Spitting Nails Fierce Girl
Judgmental Girl
Inner Quiet One
Watches scenes
Of younger hurting
Using eyes of
That’s what
Unresolved trauma
Looks like.
Wounded ones
Become fiery fighters
Out of their minds
Hurting others and
Until those paths
Become bankrupt.
Choose healthy ways
To purge the pain
Kick boxing
Martial Arts
NIA Dance
Yoga Flow
Running, swimming, dancing
Bawling, sobbing, crying
Scream F*CK F*CK F*CK
To the breezes that
Carry the wild words
To rumbling, crackling
Forgive self
As a practice as
Cleaning a house
Is a cycle, a rhythm.
Keep purging
All that Past
All of It.
Feeling Remorse
Is the Price of
Freedom in
Heart &

Laura Staley
Laura Staleyhttp://www.cherishyourworld.com
The founder of Cherish Your World, Laura Staley passionately helps people thrive by guiding them to a holistic transformation of space, heart, mind, body, and soul. Laura knows that there’s a relationship between the conditions of our homes or workplaces and the quality of our lives. Trained and certified with the Western School of Feng Shui and seasoned by almost two decades of working with a variety of clients, Laura uses her intuition and expertise to empower her clients to produce remarkable results in their lives. Her trifecta of serving people includes speaking, writing, and compassionate listening. As a columnist, Laura writes personal essays focused on self-discovery, feng shui, emotional health, and transformations from the inside out. Laura is the published author of three books: Live Inspired, Let Go Courageously and Live with Love: Transform Your Life with Feng Shui, and the Cherish Your World Gift Book of 100 Tips to Enhance Your Home and Life. Prior to creating her company, Laura worked as a fulltime parent and an assistant professor at Ohio Wesleyan University. She earned a Ph.D. in political science from The Ohio State University. Her joys in life include laughing with loved ones, dancing, reading, meditating, running, being in nature, and listening to music she loves. She resides in Black Mountain, NC with lovable dog, Layla. Laura is a contributing author to the inspiring book Crappy to Happy: Sacred Stories of Transformational Joy


  1. Laura, such inspiring words that will surely allow those affected by ups downs of life will be able to encompass; recognize themselves, past and present and indeed forgiveness will be a crucial element of emancipation.
    Super article, Laura.

    • Thank you so much, Simon. Forgiveness for a long time seemed like this intellectual concept that I couldn’t quite get my mind or heart around until I began to take on self-forgiveness as a practice and pathway to freedom. Your reflections and insights add much to this conversation. I am grateful.

    • Thank you so much for your kind words-how important to forgive ourselves-to embrace that we are perfectly imperfect. And yes, #forgivenesswins Absolutely a door way to a much fuller and freer life. I wish you a beautiful weekend, Carolyn. Thank you for all your support for my writing. it means a great deal to me. I am very grateful.

  2. Laura, This is so beautiful. It reaches deep within my heart. I know my life is good yet on those dark gloomy days the wind wispers in my ear that within life sadness also lives. I head for the dirt road and leave the wind behind me.

    • Oh, so important to head to that dirt road to leave the wind behind you. We have so much to be grateful for, my friend and the experience of being alive can be filled with a rich cornucopia of feelings, thoughts, responses, reactions, awakenings, and realizations. I appreciate your kind words and reflections so very much. I wish you a joyful weekend ahead-may the gloomy days be infrequent. May the love-filled ones be many.