“Do something about it or make peace with it.”
I still remember the first time I heard this. A friend and I were cooling down from a swim. We were leisurely gliding up and down the pool, laid across our kickboards when she uttered the phrase. It was our time to catch up on each other’s lives, and I was expressing some turbulent times in my marriage. The phrase struck me because could it all be that simple? Do something about it or make peace with it, whatever it was, was that how you could release your mind of it?
Often times, when I’m faced with the dreaded it, I say this phrase to myself. Is it my something to do something about, or is it something I need to make peace with because it does not belong to me. If it is not mine, perhaps it belongs to another, and it is their path and challenge to take.
Funny thing is for a person like me doing something about that specific something is much easier than making peace with it. I look for ways I could make it better when, in fact, what I am doing is potentially ignoring that it which is mine to doing something about. That it that is someone else’s obsession that they are attempting to make peace with.
In your day to day life, if something weighs heavy on your mind, assess, is it my something, or does it belong to another? If it is not yours, move on and focus on that which belongs to you.
Your peace will come from doing that which belongs to you and potentially provide peace to others.