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Finding Our True Balance

A lightbulb went off for me the other day in speaking with a good friend who works from home on the subject of how in-balance or out-of-balance her life felt. She lamented how much harder it was to find time for herself when the kids are home from camp – while loving the balance she is experiencing while they are away. She is committed to keeping life in balance, and even though she has clear boundaries on work time vs. family time when everyone is home, she wants to be available to respond to her kids if they need her yet this takes away her time to take care of herself.

In listening to her, it occurred to me that we often think we are out of balance because of what we are doing – how much exercise we are getting, the food we are eating, the time we spend working, time with the kids, or time on self-improvement. What if we could seek balance in an energetic way instead? What if we looked each day to balance how much energy we are giving vs. how much energy we are receiving? Instead of focusing on how much time we are spending producing, accomplishing or completing, what if we focused instead on the energy of the experiences instead? When we focus on the energy that we are giving and/or receiving from what we say yes and no to in our lives, it can help us begin to loosen our attachment to how and when things happen, and instead focus on how it feels as they are unfolding.

My energy

From this perspective, I can look at my day and see how balanced it feels. Many of my activities provide energy of both giving and receiving.

  • Meditating gives me energy, it’s a gift I give to myself.
  • Walking my dog in the morning is both giving and receiving – we both love it.
  • Connecting with friends provides both an opportunity to both give and receive by listening, expressing and supporting each other in turn. Certain people are easy to give and receive energy with, and others, not so much.
  • I give energy to my coaching and consulting clients by uncovering issues and finding solutions with them.
  • I choose clients where I can both teach and learn to keep the energy balance in place for myself.
  • What drains too much of my energy is people that are not willing to be responsible for their own experience and the ones that drain my energy the most are those that want me to be responsible for their experience – as if it’s my job to make them feel better about their story.

Knowing this about myself is very helpful in deciding how I spend my time, who I spend time with, and how I relate to others in my efforts to manage my own energy balance.

Take a gut check

The more relaxed, calm and grateful you are, the more you are allowing the energy of receiving to envelop you – even when you are giving at the same time.

One way to get a sense of this for yourself is to see how you feel (gut reaction) about each experience that you have planned for the day or week ahead. As you acknowledge each one, one at a time, notice if you feel open, relaxed and expansive, or focused, tight and contracted. Perhaps you feel some anxiety when you anticipate a phone call or meeting, yet feel excited and grateful when you consider your plans for the evening. You feel passionate about a discussion you are going to lead next week, and feel exhausted about the upcoming parent-teacher conference anticipating issues with your child. These feelings are a great indicator of how much energy balance you already have for each one. The more relaxed, calm and grateful you are, the more you are allowing the energy of receiving to envelop you – even when you are giving at the same time. The more focused, tight and contracted you are, the more you are giving your energy out – even when you do not want to be giving. You know the situations and people that feel draining to you. It can feel like they are putting you in a giving situation that you don’t want to be in, yet feel that you must give anyway.

Time to attend to the balance.

The art of true balance is about building our lives and decisions around experiences that allow us to stay in balance energetically with ourselves. Few of us do a good job of receiving as much as we give. Most of us have been taught we have to work hard, and do more than what is expected to just get by. We think that the energy exchange is like that. We have to give, give, give, and hope to get what we want in return – yet we are often disappointed in the exchange. Most of us need to balance the scales by creating more ways to receive in all areas of our lives.

In fact, for some of us, when it’s so easy and we are in the flow and our giving and receiving is in balance, we feel guilty, like we are getting away with something. As if we have to pay a price for getting what we want. As if we can’t have it all. For example, a client of mine felt that she should just be grateful that she got a good job out of school, is learning like crazy, has great hours and can telecommute, yet has a horrible supervisor and is severely underpaid. I assert we do not have to pay these types of prices, and we can have it all. First, we have to believe that is possible and then we can have it all, all of the time.

Realignment

As I look back at the dramatic and wonderful changes I’ve experienced in my own life over the last few years, it’s the energy balance that has changed. I have reduced or eliminated relationships where responsibility is an issue between myself and that person as this drains my giving energy. I consciously design my days and weeks to create ways to receive energy from myself, nature, or others several times during the day. As I look at my week, I say no to filling in open time in the evenings to keep myself in balance if the days are full of ‘giving’ activities. You can start to do this too. Look at this month on your calendar and consider which activities you give and/or receive energy from. I use two different colored categories to mark them so I can see the balance visually. Blue for giving, Yellow for Receiving and Green for both. How balanced are your days and activities?

Most of us are in the business of over-giving and need to focus on creating more experiences of receiving from ourselves and others and reducing the number of times we say yes when it takes us out of balance.

This might look like saying no to the planning meeting for the block party, and yes to a hot bath and good book. It may look like saying yes to a cup of tea with a friend instead of writing up another report. It may look like asking your partner to put the kids to bed so you can stretch and meditate before bed or by putting them to bed an hour earlier to hold this sacred time for yourself. It may look like signing up for the paddle boarding lessons on one Saturday over the summer while letting another mother take your son to soccer practice that day. It may look like walking in nature for 10 minutes to breathe fresh air and clear your mind before starting the afternoon meetings.

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Wendy Watson-Hallowell | The Belief Coach
Wendy Watson-Hallowell | The Belief Coachhttps://www.belief-works.com/
WENDY is passionate about enabling individuals, organizations and communities to value themselves and each other in the ongoing process of change. Wendy has guided hundreds of individuals and over 750+ public and private sector organizations to achieve tangible increases in impact and performance. Her successful practice in mentoring and coaching has led to authorship of the book, ‘Live a Life You Love and Make a Living Doing It’. Over the last 30 years, Wendy’s skills have been honed in leadership roles at MTV Networks, The Rensselaerville Institute, and a variety of community based projects in her town. In 2015 she launched BeliefWorks and offers Belief Coaching as a way to address the root cause of what limits the results we can achieve both personally and professionally. This is an 'upstream' solution to change. Instead of changing limiting behavior, she focuses on changing the limiting beliefs that drive that behavior. In all cases, her clients and partners speak to the specific increases in achievement that her consulting, coaching and partnership roles make possible.

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7 CONVERSATIONS

  1. First, Wendy, thank you for including the chart at the conclusion of your article. It’s a good resource as I apply the principles of what I can try. I totally followed your train of thought and could identify with your descriptions and experiences. I have never used the word energy as a foundation for balance in my life. This was a new concept for me and one that I will use to check in on myself daily or sometimes moment to moment.

  2. Wendy I love this. I have four dogs I have to walk every morning before I do anything. For a while I felt like I was losing 45 minutes a day of my time. As time passed I realized how the walk set the tone for the day for them. They loved to walk and it really makes them happy and after a while their joy started rubbing off on me. I found myself looking forward to the walk and if I missed a day because of weather I felt a little less me. So what initially felt like a lose of time for me became something that is always a high point in my day. Great Article thank you.

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