Fighting your fears is definitely a life-changing experience. I never thought I would be where I am today. This past year has been an enlightening and nurturing experience. We all have fears in our lives. The biggest problem with fears happens when they overwhelm us and hold us back in life. If we let the fears win then we don’t get to live the life we deserve. Letting our fears get the better of us causes us to let our dreams dwindle away.
Thankfully I didn’t let that happen. Fighting my fears has been an uphill battle and the ultimate learning experience. Learning my triggers and challenges through awareness has been an enlightening experience. Tackling your fears is a slow process but worth every moment.
We need to start with the fears that impact us in our daily lives and progressively work up to the really difficult ones.
We face fears every day during our regular life experiences. They can come up during conversations, work, daily life, music, television, and even social media. I started with little fears that were impacting my creativity and voice.
It’s hard for many to believe that I had a fear of creating videos, public speaking, and writing. I was able to tackle my fears by reframing the subconscious blocks in my mind that made me believe I wasn’t worthy of achieving my dreams. I learned to develop strategies to cope with the stressful physical response fears created in my body. Over time I learned exactly what helped me relax, unwind and connect with my inner sense of calm. Everyone has their own unique interests and coping mechanisms to deal with stress. We don’t always know the techniques that work until we begin to invest in ourselves and find strategies that are proven to work to relieve stress.
Over time I developed my proactive approach to stress management which brought me my sense of happiness and joy. The interesting thing that happens when you begin to unravel your fears is your true path in life emerges. When you clean away the debris stress leaves behind inside our bodies it uncovers our passions and desires. The path to emergence creates a proactive approach to overcome obstacles and challenges.
Developing this proactive approach which I now call my happiness framework took me almost a year to solidify and reinforce.
The interesting fact that emerged this week is that everything I have done to tackle the little things actually works for the big fears. As I thought back to my past experiences with travel and airplanes I realize that fear used to shut me down in life. I used to need a prescription to deal with the stress of travel and the anxiety that built when I felt confined in an airplane. I remember my last long flight to Europe wasn’t an easy task and the only reason I was able to deal with it was that I had Celexa and Ativan on hand. I am so thankful that I found my way out of the prescription patch up and developed a truly proactive approach to deal with my stress.
The old me would have been overwhelmed and panicked by this situation.
I was a completely different person on the flight to Hawaii. This was by far the longest flight I have ever taken. Two separate flights lasting about 11 hours total. The true test of my happiness framework came during the 8-hour flight to Honolulu. Not only was I on a huge plane for 8 hours the seating arrangements were less than ideal. I was traveling with my boys but we were separated by strangers. I was too far away to speak to them but close enough to see them. It was impossible to get their attention to ask a question or to get something from them. You see I was stuck in the center seat between two complete strangers. And they were also stuck in two center seats between two strangers. The old me would have been overwhelmed and panicked by this situation. Instead, I used everything that I knew worked for me to connect with my inner calm and relaxation.
I listened to meditations and hypnosis sessions focused on empowerment, true purpose, wealth, and abundance. I glanced at my boys during the flight and filled with happiness at the peace and calm that they were experiencing. I calmly closed my eyes and focused on centering myself through breathing and feeling. Any emotions that came up during that long flight were washed away quickly allowing the sense of calm to grow. When I was tired of relaxing I played Tetris and listened to my dance album. The old me would have been worried about what others thought of me and what I was doing but I truly didn’t care. At times a song would come up that made me want to dance and I did. Granted I was still stuck in a chair between two people but I wiggled and moves my arms in that tiny space jamming to the beat. Sometimes I was so entranced by the song that I would close my eyes and jam even deeper. I’m sure people walked by and thought I was a little strange but I didn’t care. I didn’t care because I’ve learned and weird is a good thing.
I’ve learned that being myself is empowering and that no one can take that from me. I’ve learned that the only person that needs to feel comfortable with it is me.
On a long day like this one, tons of emotions came up but I let them flow easily and effortlessly. Experiences from your past will pop into your head at any time and in any situation but allowing yourself to feel centered and calm releases their hold on you. When things would pop up I used Ho’oponopono, stretching, and self-hypnosis to release them. This unique proactive approach kept me feeling serene in a less than ideal situation. I would normally have been pacing up and down the aisle or worried about my kids but I felt completely aligned, safe, and relaxed. The flight was long and exhausting but fear didn’t get in my way. It was truly an empowering experience to see that everything I had put into place for myself over the past year was exactly what I needed. There was no longer a need for prescriptions to fog my brain or hide my experiences.
I invite you to connect with your sense of calm in any situation. You are powerful and resilient too.
I am thankful for the journey to enlightenment because it truly set me FREE to live the life I desired and dreamed. I am thankful that I can use everything I’ve learned to help others find their peace and calm. It truly is a beautiful day. I may be exhausted and unsure of the time but I know that my peace and calm is here to stay. So if you want to connect with your sense of calm and inner strength, check out my Facebook Group: Unleash Your Inner Strength today. I will begin posting videos today from Hawaii. There will be some videos on YouTube as well but the bulk of the content will only be on Facebook. I invite you to connect with your sense of calm in any situation. You are powerful and resilient too. It just takes a little guidance and support to get you feeling centered again.