Feminism: The Greatest Crime of Our Time?

One hundred years ago, women came out from under the yolk of man and began to breathe the fresh air of liberty.  For aeons, women had been harnessed to a lifestyle that literally obligated them to find a man to marry.

In order to be considered a decent woman, it was the right and proper thing to do. 

The striking reality of this situation was highlighted in 1917, when the headmistress of Bournemouth High School for Girls, announced to her pupils that…

“only one in ten of you will find a husband to marry”

…and she warned them of the fight and struggle ahead that came with the “terrible fact” of being alone.

Ordering millions of men to die horribly in the trenches of the First World War had a tendency to bring out the dramatic.  Husbands, fathers, uncles, brothers and sweethearts and, at times, whole villages were wiped away in a day.  It was likely a bullet buried itself in his heart on a battlefield somewhere in another land far, far away.

Of course, society had to change.  Family life needed to be restructured.  At first, subtle waves rippled in cities where women woke up to the fact they could secure jobs suitable to their skills, rather than the one path offered to their lot in life.  Only a short time passed until society was rocked by the shocking acts performed by ‘outrageous’ frustrated women forcing attention to their plight with the suffrage movement.  Then, along came the damnable introduction of birth control.

To understand the use of dramatic words to describe the changes made during this relatively short period of time, you need only ask your grandmothers.  Their life experience exposes a period in living history that will tell you more than you can ever read in books, magazines, newspapers, watch on the TV, at the cinema or search online.

During this relatively short passage of time men, it seemed, had outlived their usefulness.  At first through necessity then, later, through choice.

Of course, if you do read history books you’ll be aware that women have always found ways to stand alone, to stand up and to be counted.  Mary Bankes is one such woman.  In 1645, when Roundheads were crushing the Cavaliers for control of the nation’s governance, it has been reported that Mary was there up on the ramparts with her children, throwing stones at four hundred of Cromwell’s men battering down the gates of her home, Corfe Castle.  Nick Churchill’s article Queen of the Castle, in Dorset Life quotes: “It was reported that with her daughters and five soldiers ‘by heaving over stones and hot embers, they repelled the rebels, and kept them from climbing their ladders’.”

And, who can forget the remarkable efforts of ‘The Lady with the Lamp’, Florence Nightingale?  Instead of heavily heaving her ample bosom and feinting at the slightest hint of a wound on her lover’s little finger, she forged a path through the bloodied and stinking bodies of men dying on the battlefields – in order to heal them.

Of course, there will always be countless stories buried in the annals of dusty libraries, but you and I have to make the effort to prize them out from between heavy binding, with some libraries in chains.

But it has to be acknowledged, these women were the exception, not the norm.

In my own effort to tease out stories of women who had chosen a life without men, my search kept leading me to stories that showed a different sacrifice.  One made by men who had lost the meaning of their existence and were unable to find their true and proper purpose in life.

This was compounded by an article I read in The Daily Mail in April 2015, The Denigration of Men by Peter Lloyd who had written a book on the topic ‘Stand by Your Manhood’ where he states that despite feminists asserting they still live in a patriarchy and give them a hard time, men are:

more likely to be homeless, circumcised, attacked, jailed, drafted, under-educated, short-changed in parenthood and shafted by divorce.”

He also stated the sad fact that men died sooner too.

The impact of that article still leaves its mark in my conscience today.  For a woman who has lived for the most of my life like the women of the 1920s, alone, I found myself agreeing with the majority of Lloyd’s remarks in defence of men.

Men, it seems, appear to have lost their way.

You’ve only to look at the recent campaign to highlight suicide rates of men in the States and Britain, to understand this small, but relatively important, fact. According to the Mental Health Foundation, in 2016 there were almost 6,000 suicides recorded in the UK.  Seventy five percent of these were men.

Another fact remains.  While there is a need to acknowledge women’s voices have been squashed over the centuries, women’s relatively recent freedoms have come at a high price.  But, it is a price that has been paid by women and the men that love them.

During this time of historic change for women, we mustn’t lose sight of the honourable willingness men have shown.  That they have been able to change their whole ways of being – for the women they love.

Men have stepped up to the mark.  They have staunchly supported women throughout.  That act must not be ignored.  We must admire that.  While they have demonstrated over the many years of hostility shown throughout the major world wars and minor battles, that they would not hesitate to give up their lives to save the countries they love in order to protect the women and children who love them, we must not forget to admire the sacrifices they have made for us throughout history – and even right now.  We mustn’t forget to stop and try to understand what they want.  We must find a way to make them feel valued, again.

Sometimes, at their own expense, men have enabled women’s empowerment to happen.  We mustn’t fear the power they have wielded over the centuries.  Instead, we must begin to acknowledge that, without men’s contribution towards the women’s movement of change, it would never have happened.

In order to be considered a decent woman, it is the right and proper thing to do.


Kaye Bewley
Kaye Bewley
KAYE Bewley assists people get the best out of their life. After 30+ years in the media, marketing and military fields, she turned to psychology and spirituality. In combining the knowledge, skills and experience gathered from these areas she assists people get their own book in them, out. She also contributes to various local, national and international print and online magazines on a range of topics that include psychology, spirituality to gender in the workplace.

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  1. Interesting. I’ve read a few of your articles in this area and I am pleasantly surprised. All to often articles title such are so one sided that only people who believe exactly what is written ahead of time, will read the whole article or completely discount it as trash. I have been single most of my life, I can spew stats, my war experiences, unfair laws and it all amounts to the same thing. I just can’t see the risk out weighing the benefits, recently I watched an interview with Jordan Peterson with GQ England and really thought about his reply to the interviewers statement of patriarchy. The practice of looking back through history wearing sexist goggles is definitely not appropriate. Sacrifices by both sexes were key to surviving and bringing forth the next generation in a world that is better then the one their parents had. The evil patriarchy hammering down women who dared question is terrible one sided, idealized and just plain wrong. The fact is men once willingly risked all including their lives in recognition of the value women and children bring, knowingly sacrificing their lives for such. But we have eliminated the traditional family, we have alienated men as unnecessary, relying instead on government to provide. And to great risk of societal collapse we have removed men’s focus of self sacrifice and simple rewards to the extent that men are giving up, walking away, loosing interest and worst of all, just ending it as a life not needed or wanted. This is a critical time for western civilization, you can’t write off half of your population especially those who make everyday amenities that lift up civilization, possible. Unfortunately in my opinion we have gone to far down the rabbit hole and the correction mechanism will not be easy or gental . We may not service as a civilization

  2. Excellent! Thank you. As a woman married 48 years and mother to married children, I worked instead of staying home with my children. But from my first entry level position even I saw that there was always a push to make sure women were heard, needs considered, paid equally. I’m sure there are organizations where inequality exists, but it seems the scales are tipping precariously away from fairness because we make it about gender when really the decision should be based on something else entirely. (Skill, experience, ability, etc)

  3. Good read. Feminism used to mean something very different then as it does now. Our Canadian Prime Minister who always says he’s a strong Feminist believes in gender parity. He believes in it so much that Canada’s federal budget for 2018 has itemized investments to reduce gender parity with no direct investments made for economic growth. Canada’s economy is already at a tipping point and it won’t take much for us to go into recession. The biggest thing women gained from feminism was choice, the freedom of choice — but there are too many influential feminists today that want to take away that choice. You’re a women, you have to go into STEM, you can’t stay at home and take care of the kids, you shouldn’t even have kids. Oh, you’re concerned about men? You shouldn’t be because no one cares about them. They have toxic masculinity.

    I enjoyed your article. It is level headed.

    • Thank you Chris, appreciate your comment. Interested to know what STEM means? I know it appears that no one is concerned about men – but there are women like me around who support you and are grateful for all you do. Thanks for not giving up! All the best, Kaye