Feast or Failure – How To Survive Holiday Gatherings

Dearest hearts for many of you the holidays offer a period of merry and joy but for others, they represent a time when you may feel unable to fit in and the pain of being an outsider becomes excruciating. You feel obligated to take part in the holiday gatherings but you don’t feel part of the group that’s attending. Pressured to attend but uncomfortable once you arrive, what exactly do you do during the holiday season?

When you’re loving yourself you’ll take the necessary steps to prepare and you’ll arrive in a state of mind and offering the vibrational output that simply states, “I am love!”

We want you to go prepared. This means that you will not spend your days in dread but rather in love. When you’re loving yourself you’ll take the necessary steps to prepare and you’ll arrive in a state of mind and offering the vibrational output that simply states, “I am love!” You, as the awakened one in the group, the sensitive being in the crowd or the shoulder upon which others like to cry must set the example for others to follow. In the past, you’ve been content to drag yourself to the affair feeling awkward or out of place and then you’ve either hidden in the corner, immediately tried to offer maid service to the host or you’ve tried to obliterate all knowledge of the day through drinks or drugs. All of these coping mechanisms are dangerous and none of them are acceptable. Instead of coping by hiding, working or obliterating yourself completely, go prepared.

Your life journey is an opportunity for you to overcome all that’s preventing you from becoming your most incredible self.

It’s not a surprise that the holidays are here and you should not act as if they’ve snuck up on you. Trying to run away from what is, merely brings it closer into your being and causes you to have even more negativity to deal with. Prepare for your life by going within. Learn to communicate with the Divine presence that is in attendance for the purpose of your well-being every minute of the day. Instead of trying to hide learn to become vulnerable by bringing your fears and insecurities to the Divine. Your life journey is an opportunity for you to overcome all that’s preventing you from becoming your most incredible self.

You’re higher vibration will be felt and respected by those in attendance and you won’t be the butt of any more jokes.

Therefore, you must sit quietly and commune with the inner world of greatness that is you. If you feel uncomfortable at social gatherings because you feel you don’t measure up, take the time daily leading up to the event to review a list of all of your positive attributes, spend time with a mirror speaking lovingly to yourself and be your own best cheerleader so that you’ll walk into the event feeling good about you. You’re higher vibration will be felt and respected by those in attendance and you won’t be the butt of any more jokes.

Bring both of these energies through your body to the heart center and then allow them to emanate from you and form a protective barrier around you, a shield of truth and love

Perhaps you’d rather not go to the gathering because you can feel the emotions of everyone in the room and you find this overwhelming. Then you must prepare to attend by cultivating a daily practice of grounding and shielding. To do this effectively, you must allow yourself to connect to the energetic structure of the earth and receive from Mother Earth the ability to renew and restore, then connect with the energy of heaven and offer yourself and all others, unconditional love.

Bring both of these energies through your body to the heart center and then allow them to emanate from you as they form a protective barrier around you, a shield of truth and love.

If you are met with judgment, censure or a barrage of negativity your feelings of self-love will allow you to stand strong not out of a place of better than but from a place of acceptance. This will allow their own feelings of pain to be transformed into energies of unconditional love that allow them to rise as you have, into the highest vibration of unconditional love.

Being socially adept means that you begin from a place where you feel good about yourself, emitting a quiet strength

Being comfortable in social situations isn’t a matter of being better than anyone else in the room. There may always be people who are better at certain skills than you are. No, being socially adept means that you begin from a place where you feel good about yourself, emitting a quiet strength. From this place of brightness, you earn respect and because you’ve done the work to connect with heaven and earth you will not be bombarded by the unchecked emotional barrage of others. Instead, you’ll be pulsing with peace and others will be drawn to the calm that you’ve brought to share.

When people feel heard, loved and accepted they have no desire to lash out

As you are approached by others, be the love they need. Listen attentively to what they share, be genuinely interested in all that’s of interest to them and allow everyone you encounter to truly feel blessed by your presence. When people feel heard, loved and accepted they have no desire to lash out. The pain they feel dissipates and the love they are is able to rise to the surface and provide even more joy.

Understanding that what you encounter and how you interact with others is determined by how you’re choosing to show up in the world, you’ll take time every day to do the inner work necessary to master your vibration

You may never love going to parties or being part of large crowds but with the proper preparation, you’ll be a success. Understanding that what you encounter and how you interact with others is determined by how you’re choosing to show up in the world, you’ll take time every day to do the inner work necessary to master your vibration. Instead of dreading the event and looking for reasons why you won’t enjoy yourself, be the pro-active spiritual seeker and prepare for an enjoyable holiday by raising your vibration as you swaddle yourself in the life-giving and protective energy of unconditional love.