Is the fear of ADMITTING failure holding you back from where you really want to be?
Is the entire idea of failure something you’ve avoided so hard that you stay stuck in situations WAYYYY longer than you know you should?
If you responded to these two questions with a weak, little, silent “yes” in the confines of your brain – join me in the common life experience of prolonging failure. Yep, I’ve done it, too, more than once in my life experiences.
And guess what? Many other people have, too.
We, human beings, are often so averse to the entire idea of failing that we will literally remain in toxic relationships, workplaces, churches, and many other kinds of circumstances simply to avoid the appearance of failure.
To make this avoidance even worse, there are all kind of authoritative voices in the wind who claim that “quitting is a failure” and “quitting is a habit!” Well, guess what again? Those statements are not the truth in every circumstance.
Authoritative voices make single line statements all of the time and they don’t necessarily apply to every life circumstance. Please stop looking to others for your life truth! THAT behavior is part of the problem that keeps so many people stuck in toxic situations.
What if we can begin to comprehend that failure is as simple as falling short of gaining the anticipated or expected results? How would this application of “failing” change the view of “failing?” What if a change in viewpoint helped us to embrace the reality of failing? What if a change in viewpoint helped us to make wise decisions and move forward into our futures in ways that align with our purposes?
Boom! There IS such a thing as Failing Well and Failing Forward and Failing on Purpose! These “failings” are on purpose within a decision to end something that is not working in our best interests or that is not aligned with our purposes.
And know this: some toxic circumstances, relationships, and company/ church cultures are only revealed AFTER we find ourselves in the great big middle of it all!
There are HEALTHY necessary endings.
There are NEEDED necessary endings.
There are PURPOSED necessary endings.
Most importantly: necessary endings are NOT quitting.
Kick the accusatory, self-serving voices in the wind to the curb of life. Those self-serving voices call everything that doesn’t go their way “quitting!”
Some people and cultures are so controlling, manipulative, and domineering that they can only see their way of how to do things. And anything or anyone who does not do life or processes their way is “wrong!” Furthermore, anyone who leaves the domain of their way of doing things is deemed as “quitting!”
Not so, oh, so no so!
Embrace the TRUTH that there are necessary endings in life.
Embrace the TRUTH that there is a way to Fail Forward and Fail Well.
Embrace the TRUTH that you can move forward into YOUR Life On Purpose Now by leaving behind what is not working and what is not aligned with your purpose. It is okay; it is good.
What is falling short of gaining the anticipated or expected results you know are possible in your life AND you’ve given IT your best efforts over an appropriate amount of time? Are you ready to evaluate the situation honestly?
Failing Well means ending something that is not aligned to your life purposes and choosing to do something different. Embrace the concept of Necessary Endings and you will marvel at the glories of failing!