Everything You Want Is on the Other Side of Fear

–Courage to Follow Your Dreams

I speak to so many people that once had a dream or a vision but lacked the courage to face their fears and take action. They just settled.

I recently spoke to one of my customers who had achieved a fair amount of success in his life. He told me he went back to visit his “hard luck” hometown after 48 years. It is a small town on Lake Erie that never recovered from the loss of the steel mills many years ago. While there, he encountered a few friends from his childhood who never left. These are people he has known his whole life. They decide to meet for lunch and catch up.

As they were sitting in a restaurant overlooking Lake Erie, the man looks out over the lake and he saw the old power plant that once employed over 2,000 people. It was now vacant. Not even a car in the parking lot.

As he looked to his right, he saw a large empty field full of weeds where one of the five steel mills that employed over 15,000 people once stood.

As he drove to the restaurant he saw what was once a vibrant downtown which was now abandoned and boarded-up buildings. Get the picture!

One of the friends said, “You were lucky. You had the opportunity to go to college, get out of here, and build a lucrative career. I never had that opportunity.”

The man’s initial reaction was anger, but he controlled it. He took a deep breath to collect his thoughts then he replied, “There was no luck involved. I made a choice to get it. Growing up we all imagined that someday we would go to college and become successful. We all had the same vision back then.”

The man continued, “When it came time to go to college, I didn’t have the money and my family certainly didn’t have the money. So I made a choice. I chose to join the military. It delayed my vision by four years, but I was able to save some money and with help from the GI bill I went to college.”

One of the friends said, “We remember when you did that we thought you were crazy. You enlisting during the Vietnam War. There was no way we were going to do that.”

The man took another deep breath then said, “Well, gentlemen, I guess we all have to live with our choices.”

Now, what happened here? All these old friends had imagination and a vision but only one made the choice to do whatever it took to realize his vision. What choice are you going to make? Are you going to say I am what I am and nothing I do will change anything? Or are you going to say, “What If” and have the courage to face your fears?

I recently read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. He wrote;

Taking action is about living fully. Inaction is sitting in front of your television every day for years because you are afraid to be alive and to take the risk of expressing what you are or can be. You can have many great ideas in your head, but what makes the difference is the courage to take action. Without action upon an idea, there will be no manifestation, no results, and no reward.

Remember this, I didn’t have the opportunity is not a reason or an excuse, it is a choice.

Isn’t it time to move beyond your fears and have the life that you were intended to live? If you are, call me. We’ll talk. I’ll help you.

Got your attention!

Originally published on VOCAL and featured here with Author permission.

Frank Zaccarihttps://www.frankzaccari.com/
Facilitator, Professional Problem Solver, Radio Show Host, Best-selling Author, Keynote Speaker A native of western New York, Frank Zaccari served as a military medic in the U.S. Air Force before spending over 20 years in the high-tech industry. His experience included senior positions with Fortune 50 organizations to turning around small and mid-size companies. His path has helped him learn a great deal about business, finance, organizational development, people, and success. Frank has written and published six books based on life-altering events. His latest book "Business Secrets for Walking on Water" is the #1 Best Selling New Release. He teaches a program for aspiring entrepreneurs at Arizona State University; he is a mentor with the Veterans Treatment Court; a mentor and judge with the University of California Entrepreneurship Academy and is an accomplished keynote speaker. Frank is the host of a Roku TV show which has reached over 220,000 people in 42 countries. After 30 years as a successful executive, author, and entrepreneur, Frank has joined forces with Jay Abraham and Gaby Ory to form THE TAG TEAM to leverage the knowledge and experience he gained to help aspiring entrepreneurs and other leaders uncover hidden opportunities, find solutions to pressing personal and professional challenges, and build high performing organizations. Education includes the UCLA Anderson School of Business – Management Development for Entrepreneurs Certification Program and California State University at Sacramento – Bachelors of Science – Finance. Frank is a contributing author to the inspiring book Crappy to Happy: Sacred Stories of Transformational Joy


  1. Thank you for bringing this topic to attention.
    The reason we prefer to keep playing it safe is the fear of looking ridiculous, of making a fool of yourself, of being hurt, of confronting rejection or of failing. We learn to live with fear from childhood, due to traumatic experiences or negative messages that we see everywhere. Although fears are not our responsibility, only we can face them and eliminate them from our life.
    Instead, you have to train your mind to see and hope for the best. I say that “you have to welcome the best ideas about the future” and act, make proactive choices, focus on how to circumvent fear and find the courage, if necessary, to take some risks but try, try.
    Fear is something that requires the use of energy, strength and determination to overcome the blocking condition it generates and continue to carry out one’s activities and pursue one’s goal.
    Fear and courage are the two sides of the same coin, they are two precious resources in every moment of our life: it is enough to know how to use and manage them.