Dreaming Of Mom For Mother’s Day

The death of our mother is a devastating rite of passage. Nothing is quite the same after she is gone. We can no longer just pick up the phone and call home for advice or to hear those coveted three words only a mother can utter with a depth of maternal love that is second to none, “I Love You.” Holidays, birthday and dinners are forever changed.

And, nothing can bring the reality of this rite of passage home quite like celebrating Mother’s Day without a mom because no one can take our mother’s place. So, what is a person to do to heal the rip in their heart from the loss of a lifetime? Because truth be told, we are always with our mothers until one of us dies.

The answer may lie in our dreams.

According to research by Scientific America, the bond between a mother and her children is a bond stronger than many of us realize. No, the bond is not all in our heart, much of it is in our brain. And our dreams are produced in the bain, in the hippocampus to be exact.

According to dream research, this is how sleep works, including REM; the Rapid Eye Movement which is seen in people in the act of dreaming; the activation-synthesis model, proposed by J. Allan Hobson and Robert McClarley back in the 1970s, suggests that as circuits in the brain become activated during REM sleep, areas of the limbic system including the amygdala and hippocampus (the parts of the brain involved in emotions, sensations, and memories) also becomes active.

What does all this scientific talk mean? The mind is responsible for dreams and love.

According to the breast cancer dream research done by Duke University Radiologist Dr. Larry Burk on dreams that diagnosed breast cancer in 18 research patients and published in the book Dreams that Can Save Your Life: Early Warning Signs of Cancer and Other Diseases  (published and distributed April 17, 2018 by Inner Traditions/ Simon & Schuster) many patients had dreams of deceased loved ones, including mothers, before and during diagnosis.

Moms returned in dreams to give reassurance to their distressed grown children.

Is this proof that love is timeless and can transcend time and space? And, if that is true, which it seems to be, can we be reunited with our deceased moms in our dreams? It may be possible to answer this question for yourself by using the acronym IPI for Intention-Prepare-Immediately to get your desired results. Here are three easy steps to help you accomplish the IPI goal to see your mother in your dreams.

✅ Intention-write down your intention on a piece of paper.

Your intention can be as simple as, “I want to see my mom in a dream tonight.” This accomplishes two important goals. It allows you to formulate your dream-request AND bring the fifth-dimension action dreaming into the third-dimension by putting the abstract thought process on tangible paper and reading it to yourself using the windows to your soul; your eyes. Remember, we are mind, body, and spirit. When we involve all three parts of this trinity in a request, the unifying results are astounding.

✅ Prepare- Place the paper beneath your pillow so you can sleep-on-it.

The term sleep-on-it is based on the concept that our minds work through challenges in our dreams, also known as dreamwork.

✅ Immediately record your dream upon awakening.

Have a piece of paper and pencil, journal, or recording device beside your bed before you go to sleep, so you do not need to search for them when you awaken. Dreams are fleeting. They disappear in the light of day like the early morning mist.

There are so many beautiful Mother’s Day articles written that remind us how wonderful our Mothers are, and I applaud them. However, this article is for those of us who miss our mothers and want to keep that love connection alive beyond death. Perhaps we want the reassurance that death is not the end and that Mom still loves and watches over us.

Our dreams may give us that reassurance. 

If you try to reconnect with your deceased mother through the Sacred Dream Doors on Mother’s Day, please let me know if you are successful. Oh, and Happy Mother’s Day to all the passed-over Mom’s reading this article over your shoulder. Sweet Dreams.

Article Research:

Researchers Find Brain Receptors Linked to Mother-Infant Bonding

Sleep – Dreams – How Dreams Occur,  (accessed May 11, 2018).

Warning Dreams Preceding the Diagnosis of Breast Cancer: A Survey of the Most Important Characteristics

Dreams That Warn Of Breast Cancer | HuffPost, Dreams That Can Save Your Life-

Dreams that Can Save Your Life: Early Warning Signs of Cancer and Other Diseases- Retrieved from


Kat O'Keefe-Kanavos
Kat O'Keefe-Kanavos
Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos is the award-winning author of Surviving Cancerland, and co-author of Dreams That Can Save Your Life. She’s a three-time cancer survivor, and co-publisher/editor of WEBE Books Publishing. Her dreams diagnosed her illness as seen on Dr. Oz, Doctors, NBC News, American Express Open, in Newspapers and magazines. She’s a Contributor to Chicken Soup for the Soul, TV/Radio Host/Producer- Dreaming Healing on DV7Radio/TV Network, Wicked Housewives On Cape Cod™, Kat Kanavos Show, Internationally Syndicated Columnist in BIZCATALYST 360°, Dream Columnist in Positive Tribe Magazine, and Desert Health Magazine, Keynote Speaker, Performance Coach who taught Special Ed & Psychology @USF, and Lecturer who promotes patient advocacy and Spiritual guidance. She is co-author to the inspiring books; Chaos to Clarity: Sacred Stories of Transformational Change and Crappy to Happy: Sacred Stories of Transformational Joy

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  1. Although my mom died when I was 13 and finding her several hours later, the only thing I remember is the song “Blue Velvet” and even today, I remember her with loss and love. Thank you for this! I have passed it on.

    • Oh, Lynn Forrester, I love that song, too! Even loved David Lynch’s movie by the same name. (Dennis Hopper was awesome in it.) After the traumatic experience of finding your mother at such a delicate age, I am so glad you have that fond memory of her. P.S. I’ll bet when you hum that song Mom hums it with you. Thanks for sharing your comment with us.

  2. I’m grateful my Mom is still with me though I resonate with your post because I lost my Dad in 2004 and not 1 day goes by when I don’t think of him, especially when I have a challenge and I wonder, how would Daddy have handled it? I usually get a sign of my next step forward. I’ll try your technique, Kathleen, and see what emerges.

    • Yes, Vatsala, and if you see “Daddy” in your dreams tell him I said “hi” and please let me know. Happy Mother’s Day.

  3. I love this Kathleen- i always feel blessed that my mother died at home just after xmas back on 2000. She knew she was going she cam up to me the night before in her nightie asking where my father and Des were. I said they were out looking at the amazing bright stars that night.
    She said to me: I will be alright now like she was choosing her own passing- the next morning she was gone.
    The stars in the sky for the next week were so bright and one I was drawn to.

    She was 87, a wonderful mother, tireless volunteer and a beautiful soul. I am so glad I came here to read this now, tonight I will go and look at the stars and take my piece of paper to bed with me and write and say i want to see my mum in my dreams tonight- wonderful thank you xo

    • Oh Suzi, what a beautiful story! Come back and let me know if you see your mum.