I never thought that I would be pursuing a relationship at this point in my life. But here I am. I have always been a hopeless romantic who believed in soulmates. I thought there is one person out there for everyone that God made especially for them. But now, at 48, I still think each of us has a match but I also think you need to grab happiness and love whenever you can.
I am not saying go out there and sleep with every Tom, Dick, and Harry, as my mom says. Sex is not love or happiness. I am saying be happy within yourself and when you find someone that adds to that happiness go for it because it could lead to love. I used to think I needed a man to make me happy. That is a myth the majority of women, especially, young women believe. I learned that if you are not happy within, how can you add to someone else’s happiness. You can’t.
I believe when it comes to love, you have to pray and listen to the answers with your intuition and your heart. I am the bleeding heart type who tends to fall fast before really getting to know the person and my eagerness usually leads to heartbreak. BUT, change is bliss. I had to trust myself to take this slow. At any rate, the right one will stick around. However, you react to the person sent just for you depends on how open you are willing to be with not only your heart but with your life. I had to really take down some walls and allow him time to break down barriers of his own so we could truly see one another.
No relationship or person is perfect. Conflict will arise. You are constantly learning about one another so you can resolve issues and let them go instead of holding on to them or constantly bringing them up. Let issues go. Learn to forgive easily. Life is too short for grudges and silent treatments. That energy can be spent loving, living, and being in the presence of the one you love.
We all have our faults and flaws. But the key to true love and added happiness is to love past the pain, in spite of faults and flaws, alongside illness, and through the problems and issues. Regardless of what happens, within the realms of forgiveness, never stop loving.