Avoiding conflicts with other people is not always possible. And many conflicts often arise because we too often seek our right instead of trying to be happy. We like arguing about senseless topics with our family and overlook that often there is no solution. It would be better giving up seeking such senseless debates that lead to nothing. It only leads to frustration, anger and tears.
We like to discuss and don’t give other people any chance. We believe that our arguments are much better, are the best and steadily try to correct others’ behavior. Seeing ourselves as perfect we overlook that such an attitude is egoistic and stubborn. We are not ready to change our opinion, instead we demand that the other person shall change the own self. We rather try to change other people’s mindset than changing our own attitude.
We set everything on our own perspective and believe that being right is important. That being right is essential in life for being happy. It would be hard for us to accept not winning in a discussion. We fight for our position and don’t want to give in.
WHAT YOU SHOULD LEARN
Write down an experience where you got into an argument with a person and chose to be right.
It definitely takes a lot of mental preparation, however it is necessary.
When you are in a discussion with a person, calmly state your case and then say you are choosing to be happy over being right. Then smile and politely walk away.]
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.
Happiness depends upon ourselves.