Do You Pretend to Be Another Version of Yourself?

We’ve all seen it, the pretenders. They certainly run rampant on Social Media. You see people wearing these masks and then you speak to them, if you are lucky, and discover they are illusions of themselves. They are not real, they are following in others’ paths, allowing us to think or imagine that they’re very, very successful or equally as powerful. The truth then appears at a break in their persona.

A word, a gesture, appears and you go ‘Whoa! What was that?’ – not what you expected. And I do say the word expected because people who attempt to force their personas or masks onto you for their own benefit, know that this is the persona you expect to see. And they gave exactly that to you.

Bosses and leaders carry many personas. If only they could afford to be more authentic, we would appreciate their skills more. However, in many cases, we EXPECT them to have many masks and personas. It is expected in the society we have created. And when the supposed truth about who they really, truly are comes out, we are shocked, and yet, we are part of the game in supporting their personas.

Any of us can be kind, strong, sad, and cranky without a persona. We can be genuine human beings and stop wearing any personas or masks to enjoy our lives.

If you think you are the same person all the time, you are incorrect. If you do not acknowledge that you have at least one other persona, you will not understand how to blend these images.

How many personas do you have? Do you have one for work, one for your family, yet another for friends, and then another for the parents of your kids?

Who are you and who are you pretending to be?

This persona, this mask that you wear may be beneficial or not. If you have a work persona that is different from your home mask, what is it and how does it help you with your peers and your boss? Or do you have a separate persona you wear when you are in direct contact with your boss?

This may sound frivolous, however, we all have different personas. And yes, it can be confusing to others if they catch on. It can also be confusing to you, the one who holds the power over these masks.

It must be exhausting to carry all these personas with you day after day. What if you could be only YOU each and every day?

This act of masking is what many do to feel safe in different situations, mostly social.

We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.

–Kurt Vonnegut

The fewer masks we wear, the closer we are to having more peace in our lives.

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Joanne Victoria
Joanne Victoria
JOANNE VICTORIA is the author of 7 books including Lighting Your Path - How To Create the Life You Want and Vision With a Capital V - Create the Business of Your Dreams. Joanne lives in the Greater Seattle, WA area. After professions such as Real Estate Broker/Owner, CFO of an investment company, CFO and Sales & Marketing Director of a home-building company, owner of New Directions, a business development firm as well as Gemma & Bixley, a coaching and consulting company, Joanne was ready for her next adventure, helping Leaders & Entrepreneurs live the life they want. Joanne took her business and personal development expertise, added in several ounces of intuition and humor, along with studies in philosophy, Buddhism, and leadership, all to be the best-qualified Life Coach ever. Joanne Victoria is the host of the "The Sanity Project Podcast", and helps frustrated and almost burned out Leaders & Entrepreneurs discover their True Calling to unleash the power of their minds to make a greater impact on the world, benefit humanity, and be more successful

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  1. What a powerful post!
    The word “person” in Latin meant “theatrical mask”, to testify that the true identity of each individual is always hidden under a mask. And, as the great playwright Pirandello said, we all learn, at our expense, that in the long journey of life they encounter so many masks and few faces.
    The problem is that I fear that things are even worse. If along the way we have learned to defend ourselves, now we live in a world where virtuality dominates, a world of masks, appearance and fiction. The great purpose of life is to find reality again.