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Do You Know When To Keep Your Mouth Shut?

Business Edge-smart growth strategies-marcia[su_dropcap style=”flat”]O[/su_dropcap]FTEN INTELLIGENT managers, in their desire to “add value”, squelch their people’s motivation and commitment, according to Marshall Goldsmith an executive coach to CEO’s and world leaders.

Here’s An Example:

Harry comes to his boss Larry with an idea to increase efficiency.

“Great idea” says Larry and then adds, “If you just make these changes, it can be even better.” expecting Harry to act with gratitude and enthusiastic acceptance. But usually that doesn’t happen.

The Problem Is This:

It has become the boss’s “baby” not the person’s. Some of us will say “I’m only trying to help.” Or “I’m just wanting to make sure he, she, they do well.”

Yet our advice, suggestions or recommendations has the opposite effect. Why?

Dave Ulrich, one of the top leadership thinkers, says:

People’s effectiveness in execution is a function of the quality of their idea multiplied by their commitment to make it work. Even if a leader’s comments increase the quality of the idea a little, it may not be worth it if they damage the person’s commitment a lot.”

Goldsmith suggests using your emotional intelligence and ask these questions before adding too much value.

  • Will my comment make this person more, or less, committed to doing a great job?”
  • “Do these people really care about the sermon that I’m about to deliver or am I just annoying them?”
  • “Will this comment help the team be more effective or is it just intended to prove how smart I am.”
  • “What’s more important, my comment or this relationship?”

Smart Moves Tip

Adding too much value is a classic challenge for managers at all levels but particularly for those making the transition from technical expert to developer of people. It’s no longer about your competency– that’s a given. It’s about your ability to help your people achieve greatness. 

Readers, do you have examples when keeping your mouth shut, with team members or even family members, was the best thing to do? 

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Marcia Zidle, The Smart Moves Coach, is a national known board certified coach and keynote leadership speaker who guides organizations that are planning, or in the midst of, ambitious growth and change. As a career strategist, she works with professionals, managers and executives who want to build • shape • brand • change • vitalize their careers. She’s been selected by LinkedIn’s ProFinder as one of the best coaches for 2016!Her clients range from private owned businesses to mid-market companies to professional service firms to NGO’s. With 25 years of management, business consulting and international experience, she brings an expertise in executive and team leadership; employee engagement and innovation; personal and organization change; career building and development; emotional and social intelligence. Your Future Starts Now With Marcia!

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2 CONVERSATIONS

  1. Seems so evident, but so often over looked. I have shared ideas but, before I felt I was heard, they were “improved upon”. My commitment and enthusiasm definitely waned. Unfortunately, as a manager, I have been guilty as well. Goldsmith’s questions were enlightening. Thanks for sharing.

    • You’re welcome Marie, How many times do our ideas and concerns get lost by lack of attention or a response that criticizes or belittle. Then as you said we feel a lessening of commitment and enthusiasm. Goldsmith’s questions are great ones to remember when we are the listener.

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