Do you have tunnel vision in some areas of your life? Default Patterns of narrow thinking limit your enjoyment of the whole.
You are successful! You have several decades of professional experience and a steady stream of income, yet….. you ponder.
Patterns are embedded during the formative pre-cognitive years in your growth. These memories are stored in cellular and muscular memory as neurochemical responses to your family and cultural environment. The patterns provide a tunnel through which to navigate and emerge into adulthood. They are integral in shaping your unconscious responses in daily life. These patterns frequently appear in your self-talk.
Yes, you can become aware and allow remembering through your physical responses in various situations. Perhaps the “feel” or the ”sense” of embedded patterns will allow new insight. Many patterns are established in the first 7 years of your life.
Some examples:
- You’ve learned not to show your emotions. The power of these buried emotions remain in your subconscious and physical body when left unrecognized and released.
- As a child, you hear the admonition – “Be a good girl/boy!” On a deep level, this implies a requirement for being loved – leaving you feeling that you aren’t loved for who you truly are but who you present to be.
- Having truly significant success, you feel an emptiness or a bottomless need for more. What lies within you that is yet to be discovered and actualized?
- Physical symptoms that bring dis-ease: The trick knee, the sensitive gut, the headaches. What is held in that dis-ease that has not been brought to your conscious mind for recognition and release?
- You are considering a shift in your business and looking for inner clarity for a new direction or expansion.
- You think of retiring and you search for what is next that will engage you and bring even deeper significance to the next phase of your life.
It can be fascinating, and yes, life altering, to step into reflection, contemplation, and self-discovery that allows remembering and re-calibrating our natural responses.
An Important TIP:
Pause before Acting – Pivot away from automatic responses — Own your emotions/behavior/patterns to befriend your life.
Thanks for sharing your insights with us, Kathleen – thought-provoking for sure. I’ve done much reframing over the past few years by taking that deep dive into myself and examining many aspects of who I am. It’s tough to identify the weeds sometimes because some of them may look like flowers, but we all need to re-examine and refresh. Even my reframing requires reframing. But I’m a constant learner and a work in progress, so it comes with the territory.
I love the question you ask, the exploration you invite as self-discovery can be a most powerful journey throughout our lives, Kathleen. I completed a meditation this morning guided by Deepak Chopra in which he offers that we feel most successful when we experience our inner value-knowing deeply we are valuable just for being here and human. Many of us did not get that particular message from birth forward. How important to notice reactions versus responses, our emotional terrain, behavior patterns that are healthy. I continue to enjoy awakening to pure consciousness of my being as the source of all the rest-the inner witness, the silent one watching the movie that is me, other people, and life itself.
Thank you so much for this invitation to self-discovery because we can create new patterns, a whole fresh life filled with gratitude and love (as one example!).
Thank you, Laura. I love what you say about observing the inner movie. I find that I continually fine-tune my awareness of subtle refinement – each time coming back to presence and the magic that arises.