Firstly, a trigger warning; the topic of addiction will be discussed in the following article. I myself have a very addictive personality which is brought to life through the following bingo card.
No matter where I look, I keep on being drawn back to three distinct focus areas:
– Connection to self
– Connection to others
– Connection to systems
All of the above are very much ‘inside-out’ yet the connection to systems piece is critical and often bypassed when looking at how we interrelate with one another and the externalities of our decision making, however until we first regenerate the human spirit, I assert it is difficult to feel into regenerate the planet or our approach to one another.
For example, I know that my emotions are just data points of where thinking is in the moment. They are not fixed nor do they mean anything in and of themselves.
I also know that the stories I make up in my head are my biggest challenge to connecting with myself, others and understanding my impact on wider systems. The more I overthink and/or suppress feelings, the more likely my energy acts like an unintentional barrier around me.
Consider that with this knowledge I still consume sugary drinks, which are bad for my body, use plastics that derive from crude oil and are only partly recycled, and yet I just can’t stop myself drinking the stuff!
I share all of this as whilst I know and understand all of this inter-connectivity that not everybody is necessarily conscious of, I still make consciously bad choices! Why? That word addiction is important.
I was inspired today to create this addiction bingo card to help bring an important message playfully to life.
What addictions, especially behaviours, can you check off your addiction bingo card above? I can confirm that I can use my big virtual dabber to cross out well over 75% of these addictions during my 44 years to date, with some very much work in progress I can assure you.
Consider the following definition of addiction from Merriam-Webster.
This article is offered as a reflective exercise solely, if something provokes within you please do seek specialist help and if you are an individual or leader of other humans that is now ready to make the use of a thinking partner and interpersonal guide in myself to go on your own vulnerability and inner connection journey so that you can realise healthier, more connected relationships at home, at work and beyond, a journey I have been on for the past 5 years and continue to be on, let’s connect.
Nobody is broken, we don’t need fixing, but we do need, I would assert, to connect to ourselves, connect to others and connect to the wider world in far more intentional and meaningful ways if we are to turn our current climate, societal and workplace challenges around.
I have said for a long time that change is an inside job, the reality of this statement continues to sharpen in its clarity for me and I welcome your feedback, thoughts, and challenges as always.