Which of these experiences resonate with you? Use this checklist to see if your life is being driven by an avoidance of feelings and emotions.
Do you…
- overthink
- people please
- control (yourself or others)
- manage conversations — pre-planning, pre-empting, second guessing, carefully crafting
- avoid conflict
- avoid topics that trigger you
- find emotions overwhelming
- feel calm, calm, calm then erupt
- power on through then collapse
- fawn and shrink assuming you’re less
- take responsibility, self-blame, self-judge
- over-work
- have a busy mind
- hold back from speaking up and engaging
- chase elusive work-life balance
- seek approval out there
- feel unworthy, incapable or unlovable
- have patterns in your life that inexplicably repeat
If you’ve said yes to even one of these, then you need to meet the emotions you’re avoiding.
Let me re-phrase that, you don’t ‘need’ to. But if you *want* an easier, more fulfilling, more peaceful, more whole-feeling life — both in yourself, and in your life — then you will *want* to meet and make friends with the emotions you’re rejecting.
It’s only by turning to face what we fear that we remember our wholeness, and then see that reflected everywhere.
So what do you want? Repeating patterns of experiences you don’t enjoy? Or freedom, ease and authentic expression?
I know my choice!
As soon as you choose YOU, everything else chooses you too. This is the season of YOU.
Much love, Helen
