Have you ever wondered why there is so little love felt or shared in many business environments? I have.
Just as much, have you ever wondered why the descriptive adjectives “strong”, “effective”, and “influential” are so often equated with these descriptive images of leadership-in-action: “tough, unflappable, stiff-suited human-god(dess)”; “policy enforcer extraordinaire”; and “super-achiever of 98% change management success rates”? I have.
Even more, have you ever wondered why “the highest ranked Top Dog” person (also known as The Decision Maker) gets to assume the descriptive title of “Leader”, all the while not fully taking responsibility for ALL failures – just as readily as he or she takes the credit for ALL successes? I have.
Have you ever wondered why this simple little thing called “Love in Leadership” is rarely (if ever) mentioned in business settings? I have.
What is Love in Leadership?
Simply stated, “Love in Leadership” is expressing and embodying compassionate, caring concern and kindness toward others. In a nutshell, it involves having the best interests of others at heart in decision making, both in words and in interactions.
Have you ever wondered why this simple little thing called “Love in Leadership” is rarely (if ever) demonstrated in business settings? I have.
Love in Leadership Mixed with Leadership Influence
The influence of a leader is the capacity, ability, or power to change and affect someone or some processes.
In action, leadership influence creates change without directly forcing change.
In fact, that is the amazing beauty of influence: it doesn’t seek to control or force, but rather it simply asserts its presence, its wisdom, and its consistency. Furthermore, authentic influence draws positive human response from its authenticity.
Influence in action is who it says it is and it does what it recommends others to do.
When authentic influence is mixed with “Love in Leadership”, its authenticity and compassionate caring inherently produces change. Furthermore, it positively affects people and processes. In fact, it’s the oft missing ingredient that contributes to legacy failure.
Oh, and by the way, legacy failure is that perplexing outcome where Mr. or Mrs. Unflappable, Stiff-Suited Human God(dess) failed miserably at reproducing a multitude of impactful follower-leaders, who work wonderfully together.
Have you ever wondered why leadership influence is not measured by willing, energized, and empowered followers, as opposed to forced policy-compliant and obedient employees? I have.
What does Love in Leadership Look Like?
First of all, love is a decision. It’s that simple, even while it can be that complex. After all, some decisions can be quite challenging. Often times, it is the less complex scenario that presents the most challenging decision making process, right?
For truly, a love decision is not based on the worthiness of the receiver. Neither can a love decision be forced through compliance or obedience. And, it cannot be “could of, would of, should of’d” into existence! Again, a “Love in Leadership” choice is a decision to express and embody compassionate, caring concern and kindness toward others.
Here’s the deal: Just because you love doesn’t mean that you must marry, or accept an offer, or even ride the train together to the ends of the earth.
Here’s the deal again: love is simply pouring out the best of you for the best interests of others – to help them, teach them, carry them, encourage them, comfort them, and sometimes tell them when they need to just “stop it!”
When you begin to comprehend these truths about “Love in Leadership”, then you can step into that large and fulfilling place of connecting with the greatest purpose of your life. And that greatest life purpose is being and expressing love in action – especially in the business setting!
Furthermore, that place of great purpose connection is really allowing others to experience the one-of-a-kind love that is within you – and only you.
And the untold truth about your unique, one-of-a-kind love is this: it must be shared with others in order to release your own heart fulfillment and joy.
One more thing: It is vital to realize that your love is not shared to control another person, but rather it is shared to propel others into their own destiny fulfillment.
Have you ever wondered why leaders separate one of the most successful ingredients for personal relationships (loving others) from their professional ingredients for success? I have.
Wrapping Up This Love in Leadership Thing
Guess what? Love-sharing in leadership is really a must – a non-negotiable in a successful, balanced life story.
This crazy little thing called love-sharing is one of the most valuable secrets in Wisdom’s treasure chest of Life Truths. Few discover it; even fewer use it; and only a rare handful of people freely give it away – thus receiving the amazing fruit of life’s joy, fulfillment, and leadership success.
Oh, yes, I forgot to mention that deeply and freely giving away love will sometimes cause great pain – when you least expect it and from whom you least expect it! Those you help the most and share the greatest love-in-action with will sometimes pierce your heart the deepest with their betrayal behavior.
So, just begin expecting some hurtful surprise attacks, and it will sometimes hurt a little less, but not always.
Have you ever wondered why this crazy little beautiful thing called love hurts so much, especially when your greatest motivation to love others is to show compassionate, caring concern and kindness? I have.
Nevertheless, I have decided that I will continue to dish it out – meaning this “Love in Leadership” thing! What will you decide about dishing it out?