Detach and Prosper

This may sound a bit outrageous as a principle for business success, especially in these financially challenging and transformational times, but here goes …

Detachment is an important aspect to be mastered by those who are serious about their personal and professional growth.

What do I mean by that? In consulting our trusty dictionary we find there are three definitions for detachment: 1) The act or process of disconnecting or detaching. 2) Indifference to or remoteness from the concerns of others. And in that definition, they add as a further definition: for instance “aloofness.”  Detachment also means 3) Absence of prejudice or bias.

Basically, in everyday life, detachment is considered as separation or severing. This particular perspective implies permanent separation from a person or from some thing. Yet, in the context of professional growth and prosperity, I feel it is the last definition in the paragraph above, “absence of prejudice or bias,” non-judgment, that applies. If we are on the path of business and personal prosperity to some level of enlightenment, we are always interested in what is going on around us. And, just to be clear, interest does not connote attachment.

There are codes that have been around for many years that really apply when understanding detachment and its importance in our professional development. I’ll bet you’ve heard this before:

Think No Evil
Hear No Evil
See No Evil
Speak No Evil

While we usually think of the monkeys (not the band, but the image of three monkeys with their ears, eyes, and mouth covered), these are all high-level aspects of detachment. Very few have learned the power that comes from actually existing at this level of mental and emotional control. The mastery of detachment leads to a greater understanding of the energy that is one’s consciousness. That’s a good thing, I think!

How it applies in real life is detaching from our emotions with regard to the outcome of our decisions. Tough, I know. Yet, according to Corporate Therapist™ Kelly Graves, first responder professionals like firefighters and surgeons must walk this tightrope. So do leaders and managers. Both surgeons and leaders are required to care for people first and foremost while at the same time making life-altering decisions that in the short term may be painful, but in the long run, must be made if life of the patient or organization is to survive and prosper.

Detaching from our emotions while decision-making doesn’t mean being devoid of empathy for ourselves and others. It means having surgeon-like level-headedness, clear goals and objectives, and pre-planned step by step thought processes that ultimately improves the life of the patient, us or our organization.

This is especially important during this time of intense volatility and uncertainty.

Of course, we do have to live with the outcome of our choices. Yet in exercising detachment, we can know that we have done the absolute best we could in the moment. Maybe that big deal fell through at the last minute. Maybe the patient died during surgery instead of living for a few more years. Do we want to torture ourselves with the blame of ‘what ifs and ‘if only’s’? Or do we want to learn what we can from each experience and do better the next time?

While many say they have mastered detachment, I think there really is much work that needs to be done in this area. Mastering detachment not only brings peace and serenity to our heart and soul but serves to help us see others with more compassion, to know they are doing the best they can in their given situations. The prosperity that comes from such compassionate detachment is priceless beyond measure. Plus it has the potential to boost our bottom line as well.


Darity Wesley
Darity Wesley
DARITY Wesley is an award-winning author, lawyer, speaker, Death Diva, and Wisdom Sharer. She recently concluded a 35-year legal career and is now focusing full time on publishing books, articles, podcasts, and videos that provide inspiration and support to those seeking personal and professional empowerment and transformation. She has traveled the evolutionary, metaphysical, esoteric, and personal development path for many decades and is a powerful resource for the application of evolving consciousness, which so many on this planet are experiencing at this time. Darity is the author of four books: You Can Transform Your Life and the You Can Transform Your Life ~ Go Deeper workbook, and How To Be the REAL You and the How To Be the REAL You ~ Go Deeper workbook. She is also the featured author in The Word Search Oracle: Yoga for the Brain, and a contributing author to Inspired Wisdom Word Search: Yoga for the Brain, Life Wisdom Word Search: Yoga for the Brain, and 27 Flavors of Fulfillment. She also offers private personal, professional, and spiritual consultation. Darity has been providing inspirational messages to subscribers around the world since 2006 and is currently offering a FREE monthly publication called ~Wisdom for the New Reality~. Visit her website to sign up! You can also visit her Tame That Monkey Mind TM website at And follow her on Facebook, Twitter and her YouTube channel @DarityWesley.

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  1. The ability to make decisions is also determined by the combination of elements in which, in addition to rational factors interact, cultural factors and psycho-logical-cognitive factors. An effective decision-making process is therefore determined by the individual’s ability to “mix” the rational aspect with creativity, emotionality and flexibility.
    In particular, detachment is a vital necessity and starts from our personal growth. It is necessary to stop strengthening relationships that hurt us, to free ourselves from excesses, from addictions. It is living honestly with ourselves and with our emotional balance. Detachment is first of all a technique that allows us to get to know each other much better in order to establish limits and live in balance with ourselves. The emotional detachment from the result of one’s actions does not mean the absence of feelings but it helps us to choose the best that we are able to choose, take an emotional detachment from the result of one’s actions.