Death is Probably a Good Example of The Fine Line Between Pain and Suffering

The pain of losing a cherished creature physically is real. If you are a kinesthetic person, you won’t be able to show your affection through hugging them.

You won’t be able to have your deep thought-provoking/philosophical discussions or heartfelt shares.

The soul hugs are at a higher level, it seems to me!

Appealingly, if it is a healthy relationship, the memories will forever be alive because every moment spent together was a quality one lived to the fullest. Also, the shared genuine love will go nowhere. Nonetheless, let’s pause and clarify an important detail here: the instinctive fear triggered by our nature will never disappear, undoubtedly!

What I am referring to is the intentional readiness to die when figuring out that our physical existence has never been solely about us.

If you have been successful to some extent in rewiring your invasive program containing all the limiting beliefs vehiculated to us by someone else and which are the root cause of all your insecurities and worries, then the narrative automatically changes!

And guess what? It is the narrative we are telling ourselves that transforms pain — a constant in life—into suffering… or not!

Don’t demand that things happen as you wish, but wish that they happen as they do happen, and you will go on well.

—Epictetus, Enchiridion, 8

When we are able to replace our thoughts about death, such as:

  • Will I ever be able to prove I’m somebody to my parents before dying?
  • What if I die without achieving any success? What is meant here is a social success whose manifestations could be financial goals, getting married, social status, etc…

By some meaningful peaceful ideas/introspective questions like:

  • Did I impact even one human being or animal or noble cause through this physical existence I was gifted?
  • Am I living every moment to the fullest?
  • Am I staying faithful to the universal principles and living by them daily?
  • How intentional am I when it comes to consuming?

Then death will not be scary anymore, I suppose!

At my funerals, I would love to hear people laugh freely while remembering some silliness. I would love them to smile peacefully to the idea that I had a meaningful life fueled by the principles and that I gave back to the Universe as much as I could!

How about you? How would you like to be remembered? How would you love your life to be celebrated?


Myriam Ben Salem
Myriam Ben Salem
I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer. Writing has been my very favorite means to educate my audience, captivate their attention, talk to their emotions, and make them relate and take action. I have been honored by working as a columnist for BIZCATALYST 360°, an Award-Winning life, culture, and biz new media digest, serving as the global hub for enhanced performance and well-being, during 2020. Also, I am a contributing author in Mayhem to Miracles: True Stories of Courage, Triumph, and Peace. I am so in love with writing that I have a peaceful smile drawn on my face whenever I start visualizing the books I will be writing for whoever will be tempted to discover an inclusive philosophy breaking with all the stigmas! I was born in Tunisia, a small country in North Africa. I did pretty much everything earlier than the average: walking, talking, singing, dancing. Promoted throughout my entire education, I was also the leader of every end-of-year party. At some point, after working several years for multinational companies as an engineer, team leader, project coordinator, and product owner while always being a top performer, I figured out I was feeling miserable despite the 'perfect external image'. That marked the starting point of an existential crisis followed by an episode that triggered my re-birth and the beginning of the most rewarding adventure of my whole existence: re-writing my subconscious program and reconnecting with my true self. I was saved at the last moment through an out-of-body experience making me see all the lies, realize this gigantic Universe was not revolving around me. Most importantly, I was able to visualize I was here to leave a legacy like all of you, no matter how big or small! The butterfly took time to emerge though. Today, I identify myself as a Universal Citizen. Like-minded and light-hearted people are what I call home. I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer, and was granted the edutainer qualifier: a combination between education and entertainment! I educate on the importance of healing unsuspected traumas, seeing our limiting beliefs and biases with honest lenses, finding one's purpose and a principled mission that goes beyond the self, and unleashing the hidden potential so that to leave our legacy for the generations unborn. I have been using a panoply of means that could vary from explicit ones such as mentorship, speaking, and writing, a skill that emerged naturally during my self-actualization process to implicit mediums like storytelling, how I daily show up in the world and model servant leadership! Writing is my very favorite and most preferred tool deployed for my mission. The topics I explore are in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, epigenetics, and pretty much any topic involving human behavior. Common denominator? The quality of the subconscious program. You may have a look at some of my works published on my website; Set Yourself Free.

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