Uxoricide by fire claimed your life. Filicide by fire claimed the lives of your three beautiful babies. Burning to death is arguably the worst way to go. But even in the worst of it, you kept persevering. You tried to save your babies. You tried to save yourself. You’re an honorable heroine. I’m sorry your life was cut short. It hurts to know your two beautiful daughters and a handsome son are no longer on this earth. They all had your infectious smile.
Abusers don’t go after people who mirror their own ugliness. They’d rather be with someone like you – beautiful, vibrant and awe-inspiring. You were easy to love. Putting you on a pedestal early in your relationship took no effort at all. And then darkening your bright light became satisfying. Watching you run in fear was exhilarating. Adrenaline coursed through his veins when he had the power and the control. How dare you leave? Didn’t you promise to love him through sickness and health? Until death do you part? He was sick, and his heart was still pumping.
By all accounts, he must have seemed like the missing piece to your puzzle. He was handsome, strong, your protector, and the man who would make your dreams become a reality. Didn’t you always want to be a mother? Didn’t he give your greatest gifts? I know he didn’t change overnight. If it was quick and overbearing, you’d have left sooner. But it was slow and inconsistent. Then there was the gaslighting. And the advice from your friends and family. But he had the wool pulled over their eyes, too. They didn’t know the entire story. But it’s not like you tried to tell them. You protected him. You supported him. You loved him. But it was never enough.
Hannah, your story happened 10,000 miles away, yet it could have happened in the house next door. This isn’t an American issue or an Australian issue. This is a humanity issue. It happens everywhere. To men and women all over the globe. And the only way to fix it is to learn about it and share the knowledge.
The Quincy Solution is one way we can begin to protect our children. And I know you’d agree it was always about protecting them. You’d give your life to save their tiny bodies if you could. You’d likely envy my state’s latest victim, Jennifer Dulos. Her fate was also uxoricide, but at least her children didn’t suffer from filicide. There may be a long road ahead for her children to process the trauma they’ve endured. But at least they have a chance to live and breathe their mother’s legacy.
I’m sorry he fooled you. I’m sorry he scared you. I’m sorry he silenced you. I will speak your name – Hannah Baxter. And from 10,000 miles away, I’ll tell your story. I’ll use my voice to put the spotlight on what happens in these situations. And what happens to people around the world in abusive relationships.