Contrary to what you think, the happiness you try to find within your overall wellbeing is not rooted in your being happy. It is not rooted in your being healthy, wealthy, or wise. It is not rooted in your being a solid person of faith following after God, an amazing athlete, physically healthy, that your social status is within the top five percent on social media, or whether the community you live in aligns perfectly with your or your family’s lifestyle.
What is helpful in serving your heart in being happy and living a flourishing life is consciously concentrating on how well you live out five wellbeing elements interdependently instead of independently.
5 Elements of a person’s Wellbeing:
- Career Wellbeing
- Social Wellbeing
- Financial Wellbeing
- Physical Wellbeing
- Community Wellbeing
“Gallup scientists partnered with leading economists, psychologists, and other acclaimed scientists, exploring the common elements of wellbeing that transcend countries and cultures. A comprehensive global study of more than 150 countries, from Afghanistan to Zimbabwe, encompassing the wellbeing of more than 98% of the world’s population. What they discovered is that when you spend an immense amount of time in one wellbeing area of your life it can actually be detrimental to your overall wellbeing. So many people dedicate an excessive amount of time and energy trying to look good and make an impression within their job that it negatively impacts their relationships.”
~Tom Rath and Jim Harter, ‘WELLBEING The Five Essential Elements.
Every day you have a choice as to how you will live out that day. 9 out of 10 decisions impact another person’s decision and your decisions ripple six circles out causing a domino effect into the world. Many people wake up each morning on autopilot. Less than 2% of the world’s population lives with a purpose in mind:
- Discerning your Purpose
- Identifying your top five core Values
- Writing down your Vision of your game plan in living out your purpose
Each has an influential impact on your wellbeing and the wellbeing of the world. When basic needs are not met you can feel sad, lonely, worthless, and afraid, depleting your wellbeing.
Anger and resentment give short term gratification. Compassion breeds long term satisfaction.
~Brooke Lynn Thingvold
Consciously living with an awareness of your 1) Purpose in life, the ‘Why’ to your existence along with 2) Consciously practicing behaviors that align within your core Values, and 3) Creating a game plan to interdependently live out all the five essential elements generates a Vision, the ‘How too’ in living a flourishing life. Doing all three generate clarity and focus, building energy, building healthy and happy relationships.
This is how “Daily Drives” was born.
The single biggest threat to your wellbeing is yourself. Without even giving it much thought, you allow your short-term decisions to override what’s best for your long-term wellbeing.
~Tom Rath and Jim Harter
Daily Drives are a means of serving others, helping them live a flourishing life in their overall wellbeing.
Committed Way of Being + Conscious Awareness of Feeling = Pause2Endure
A mindset strategy and a pivoting tool
Committed Ways of Being
The state of being is the ability to act consciously competent within your mind, body, and spirit, having a heart of peace and not a heart of war. “The most important factor in helping things go right…having a heart at peace.” -The Arbinger Institute, Anatomy of Peace; resolving the heart of conflict. It is radical, profound, and transformational. Living a flourishing life with mutual respect and trust instead of a life of justifications.
I created a set of 9 Committed Ways of Being influenced by Jesus:
Seeing the crowds, he (Jesus) went up on the mountain, and when he sat down, his disciples came to him. And he (Jesus) opened his mouth and taught them (the Beatitudes), saying…
The Beatitudes all begin with “Blessed are…” They are called beatitudes from Latin ‘beatus’, ‘blessed, happy.’ Blessed is more than a temporary or circumstantial feeling of happiness, it is a state of well-being in relationship to God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit.
Living life daily aligned with your purpose, behaving according to your core values, consciously and competently with intentionality is not always easy. It has to be developed, learned, and practiced.
Conscious Awareness of Feelings
“Emotions are derivations of five core feelings: happiness, sadness, anger, fear, and shame. As you move through your daily routine – whether you’re working, spending time with family or friends, eating, exercising, relaxing, or even sleeping – you are subject to a constant stream of emotions. It is so easy to forget that we have emotional reactions to almost everything that happens in our lives, whether we notice them or not. The complexity of these emotions is revealed in their varying forms of intensity.”
– Travis Bradberry, EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE 2.0
Being consciously competent in your awareness and alertness of your emotions, feelings, and responses within yourself and within your relationships, all help bring peace to your mind, body, and spirit.
The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. – Galatians 5:22
Emotional Intelligence is being able to discriminate between different emotions and label them appropriately. You need to be consciously competent with emotional information to guide your behavior:
- Alert to emotions within yourself.
- Alert to the emotions within others.
- Managing your emotions.
- Validate emotions within your relationships.
When pausing, praying, and preparing your heart and mind to choose which emotion you would like to have at the beginning of your day it helps give clarity and focus to your mindset of how you will feel and respond to others no matter what comes your way.
The next essential step in living a flourishing life intentionally is creating a reason for your being and feeling that certain way, helping you have a heart of peace instead of a heart of war.
Creating a reason gives additional clarity and focus in living a flourishing life with purpose and meaning. Unfortunately, if you do not have a reason for pausing and consciously thinking about how your thoughts, words, and actions impact yourself and others, you may not care and you may always overreact. By not caring about your wellbeing and the wellbeing of others, your ability to live a flourishing life may most likely suffer.
The Gottman’s Institute, the leaders in over 40 years of scientific research on relationships, says when one person makes a positive change in managing their thoughts, words, and actions it can have up to a 40% positive impact within their relationships. At home and at work
Blessings to your being consciously aware and alert with a heart of peace,