Isn’t it funny how sometimes when things don’t go the way you expect them to go, they can somehow turn out better than they would have otherwise?
The other night we went to the Farmer’s Market. Well, actually, we were hoping to go to the Farmer’s Market and it turned out there was no market. I don’t know what happened, but there we were, recyclable bags and Costa Rican Colones in hand, and nothing to buy!
So, off we went to our favorite pizza place across the street. We got there and…something was amiss. There were no lights! There was no electricity! But they assured me that, yes, they were indeed open, as long as we ordered pizza and beer, it would be fine. (Well, okay then!)
When we sat down, it was about 5:15 in the evening. What hadn’t occurred to us was that it gets dark here in Costa Rica at about 5:30. So, 15 minutes into our dinner experience, there we were, sitting in the dark.
I looked around, no candles, just darkness, so I whipped out my phone, downloaded a candle app, and voilà! Let there be light!
Ten minutes later, our waitress brought out a real taper candle and we had the loveliest candlelit dinner ever!
It’s taken me years to lean into the unexpected. As a recovering control freak who comes from a long line of controllers, I like to know what I can count on. I feel more sure of myself in environments I can control. But what I’ve found is that, more often than not, delight lives in the unexpected. If you expect it, it somehow loses its magic.
So now I practice letting go (and moving to a foreign country gives me lots and lots of opportunities to practice!). I am training myself to delight in the unknown.
Even now, at this very moment, I got to practice! I’m trying to finish my writing and my husband wakes up and wants to show me some silly Zoom thing that showed up in his news feed (Google “texas lawyer cat filter and you’ll find it). At first, I was tense and curt, “I need to finish my writing! I’m focused!” But 20 seconds later I was laughing so hard that tears were rolling down my face!
We need more delight in our lives!
Lean into the unexpected. The unplanned. The unknown. For it’s in those moments when we dare to let go that we find the real beauty in being human.
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