Most of us would agree that whenever we’ve had to make a decision about who to give our business to, who to buy from, or who to hire, the person with whom we have the best relationship is the one who usually gets our business. In our personal world, the people we choose to spend the most time with are the ones with whom we have the best exchanges. These kinds of reciprocal relationships tend to cultivate a wonderful state of what I call mutual flourishing.
Mutual flourishing is a key element to consider adding to our life philosophy. This level of ‘beingness,’ this attitude of togetherness, is an approach that supports our personal and professional success, as well as our spiritual success.
Mutual flourishing provides us the opportunity to support each other in many ways–to be of service to each other, to help one another, to be kind–and this can actually propel all of us to new levels of achievement and success.
And guess what? The best and most time-honored way to engage this model is through harmony and peace Yes, peace and harmony … a practice of mindfulness at all levels.
From my perspective, harmony and peace are two different, yet necessary, kinds of glue that hold mutual flourishing in place. Harmony and peace, words we have certainly heard a lot in our lifetime, really come from incorporating understanding and wisdom in our relationships Now, that certainly does not mean we have to agree on all things. Really, sometimes understanding that someone’s perspective is just a different reality from ours, especially nowadays, supports our ability to be mindful and maintain relationship peace and harmony. No need to make someone wrong. It just is what it is. It is not our job to make others believe as we do, is it? I don’t think so. Everyone is a sovereign being.
Harmony and peace in relationships is the authentic exercise of our own mindfulness. It’s simply accepting where another person is coming from. When we take the time to practice non-judgment, we can allow that clarity, that being clear in our thoughts, words, and actions, to be the foundation of our communication. And when we do that, being clear about what we are saying and mindful that we are speaking our truth, we can truly grow together … and mutually flourish.
Creating and maintaining relationships that flourish requires that we stay aware and alert to sustaining the trust and integrity we have created. It means we say what we mean and mean what we say. It means we maintain honest and sincere communication with one another.
Most unnecessary conflict comes from miscommunication, mismatched expectations, or insensitivity. If we are mindful of this, we can take steps to increase our own mindfulness, openness, and sensitivity to what another person is saying, feeling and thinking.
How we do what we do is important, personally, professionally, and spiritually. Understanding and honoring the importance of all our relationships reflect emotional and spiritual maturity. This level of maturity leads to mutually beneficial experiences, which in turn leads to relationship harmony and mutual flourishing.