Creating A Peer Mentor Contract To Support Your Goals

To help you achieve your goal, it helps to have a fellow dreamer, a peer or mentor to work with you. This peer-mentor can be a friend, a co-worker, another close associate, or a complete stranger, better not with a spouse or best friend.

Your peer-mentor need not be a professional (such as a clergyman, social worker, or human resources counselor), but should be a person who has resources or skills which you do not, and who has agreed to support you by sharing their knowledge and skills with you. This is the person with whom you will review your objectives each week, making sure your goals are specific and checking to see if you are sticking to your set goals , eliminating anything which wastes time or energy. In turn, you agree to offer him/ her the support, resources and skills he/she needs.

I have sometimes called this process “Goal Tenders”, because the idea is to give each other “tender, loving support” as you strive after your goals. Unlike in basketball, where goaltending refers to an illegal defensive move, here Goal Tenders refers to something mutually beneficial:

“You help me tend to my goal, and I’ll help you tend to yours.” You each identify your goal and you each agree to help the other in achieving it. This process is also called “re-source-ing” – a method for you to use the resources of another person, in order to help you achieve your goals.

In our workshops, we help each person identify a goal, and then we assist them to pair up with another person who has complementary needs and skills to their own. The two proceed to form a “Peer Mentor” contract, in which they formalize their mutual support.

The details of the contract can be as simple or complicated as you like; the important thing is – it’s an agreement between two people to help and support each other as they move along toward achieving their goals.

In “A Swift Kick in the Can’ts – the New Peer Mentor Model for Success Now” Mentor-Success, I show a sample contract and how to fill it out.


Elaina Zuker
Elaina Zuker
ELAINA is the president of Elaina Zuker Associates in Montréal, Canada. She has taught seminars to hundreds of employees and managers at major corporations such as AT&T, IBM, American Express, and MCI International, and is a frequent keynote speaker at conferences and industry events. She is the author of six books, on leadership, management, and communication. Her best-selling book, “The Seven Secrets of Influence” (McGraw-Hill), the recent Main Selection for the Business Week Book Club, has been translated into four languages and its new, revised 2021 edition is now available on Amazon in paperback and as an e-book on Amazon Kindle. Her new book about Peer Mentoring YOUX2 has also just been launched on Amazon. Her internationally successful program “Secrets of Influence ™ is now available as an online learning program, either as a completely online self-study program or in a hybrid version. The program, created with the latest educational technology, can also be customized for an organization’s specific requirements. Ms. Zuker holds a B.A. in Psychology, an M.A. in Management/Organizational Development, and is the 2004 recipient of the Alumni Achievement Award from New York Polytechnic University. To engage Ms. Zuker as a speaker or consultant, to book a seminar for your company or organization, or to learn how to become a licensed Affiliate for Secrets of Influence, visit or contact us at [email protected]

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