Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
Do you ever have a time or moment that you have trouble controlling your thoughts?
A story that was once shared with me goes like this:
A young mother came into the kitchen and saw her young daughter holding two apples. The mother said to her daughter, “oh sweetie, can mommy have a taste of one of your apples? Will you share one of your apples with me? The little girl quickly took a bite out of both apples.
I will be honest, immediately I thought how selfish this little girl was, when as the story progressed, the little girl after taking a bite out of both apples said to her mommy, sure, I wanted to taste them both to give you the best one” mommy.
Jesus says, don’t judge or you also will be judged.
Many times, in my life I have been guilty of this in more ways than one. Although today I am much more aware of controlling my thoughts so as not to judge what I may not know or understand, however, I am not always successful in this endeavor.
Another story shared with me was a friend of mine headed to work and noticed on this rainy day a man pushing his car up a hill. My friend said he was thinking “if only I had time to help”, as he had a meeting waiting for him. When he stopped at the light, a homeless man came up to his car and asked for two dollars. My friend said, “I will give you two dollars” if you will go and help that man push his car”! My friend drove away, and the thought came into his mind that this person he just gave two dollars too, would probably not help the man push his car, but rather go to the nearest convenience store and spend it on “whatever”. So, my friend turned around and drove back towards the intersection, only to find to his surprise that the homeless person was helping the man push his car up the hill…
Words are hurtful if used incorrectly.
Thoughts are damaging to the soul.
Actions can cause pain.
Habits can be destructive creating
A character that in the end, leaves us lost.
These are my thoughts, my words. I wrote them, lining them up with the quotes by Frank Outlaw above.
Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you shall be judged: and with what measure you measure, it shall be measured to you again.
We cannot love one another if we are spending time in judgement. What is the solution?
I will speak for myself and that is; take time to listen and hear what is being said before passing judgment. Silence is a wonderful action to pause the situation and take time to think things out. I struggle each day to avoid controlling my thoughts to judgement, and each day I fail, because at least once, if not more than once, I find myself in judgement of someone, only to find out that I was wrong. It’s becoming less frequent, and I love that because I love my God, but I have to work on it every day.
In Colossians 3: 10-16, Paul speaks of the “LOVE” of God which is the breastplate for overcoming judgement.
Disagreements and issues are found in every family, but what is important that the words or thoughts stated don’t destroy the family or the individual. Control of our thoughts when something doesn’t sit right with us, sitting in silence briefly and reflecting upon what we are thinking, and not passing judgment is a task that takes practice, but the results are worth it. We have avoided saying something we wish we could take back; thinking poorly of the character of the individual, therefore developing a resentment.
I grew up in a family that was so dysfunctional. I believe with all my heart that I was considered the black sheep of the family. While there were six of us, I seemed to be the one that couldn’t get things right. Although not much was said directly to me, but rather to each other about me, judgement was passed, and there wasn’t the time taken to find out what was really going on. I wasn’t a lost sheep, without a future. How many siblings have been hurt deeply because judgment was passed on because of the actions and words that could not be controlled?
Take the Challenge: For one week, see how many uncontrolled thoughts bring about judgment and it turns out to be just the opposite. God bless all who take time to read and reflect.