We all need a little (constructive) criticism now and then.
In fact, our critics are often the ones who help us grow the most. But, let’s face it, we tend to volunteer criticism much more often than we do compliments…and certainly more often than we care to receive it.
So, what’s the right mix of positive and negative feedback?
Harvard Business Review addresses the relationship between team performance and the ratio of positive and negative feedback. The researcher’s findings – high performing teams received almost six positive comments for every negative one while the low performing teams received three negative comments for every positive one. Not surprisingly, a similar ratio applies to personal relationships. Hara Estroff Marana’s article, “Our Brains Negative Bias”, informs us that the “magic” ratio of positivity and negativity in personal relationships is five to one.”
Focusing more on the positive is not just good for those around you.
Ever notice that you feel more energized when you’re in a positive frame of mind… and that you often feel drained by negative thoughts and situations? Tony Robbins teaches – “where focus goes, energy flows.” Having a positive focus may not always come naturally, but it is a choice we can (and should) make.
- Choose a positive focus…it matters.
- Don’t hold back on (valuable) constructive criticism… with emphasis on valuable and constructive.
- Look for opportunities to offer positive feedback and encouragement…and act on them.
- Compliment more than you criticize…Period!