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Thank you for sharing your examples Carolyn Lebanowski. We never know for sure till we experiment and try. Mind you have an opportunity to make an outstanding drink by mixing beets and spinach. It is a question of how to turn something we do not like to something that we like.
Now, this is my idea for a post-learning –turning hate to love learning from the kitchen.
How to turn hatred into acceptance and even love? How to turn an old enmity into accepting each other?
The analogy I find is the same whether we turn hatred to acceptance whether it is hatred for people or hatred for certain foods. The approaches are similar.
Imagination, willingness to make their babies eat healthy food, devotion and experimenting all combined helped mothers gradually turn the rejection/hatred of certain healthy food to accepting them. These include
- Beware of mixing hatred for food or the way in which the food is served and looks. Sometimes the hate is not for the person, but for the way a human presents himself. By changing the “form” of either the food or human we may accept them.
- Hatred that bases itself on religious beliefs is hard to deal with. A Moslem hates ham even though he has never tasted it. Sometimes we may hate for reasons that are not easy to cope or deal with.
- Pairing food with favorite spices might do the trick and make an unacceptable food taste into a favored one. Look here the problem is not the food but rather the taste. Extend the same to a person and what is it exactly about him that you do not like? If this person keeps company with a close friend of yours would you change your mind about hating him?
- Apply the exposure effect. Research showed that people may change their hatred of a certain food by exposing them repeatedly to them and for at least fifteen times. Humans become more familiar with the food and may accept it. If we apply the same to seeing somebody you do not like would the exposure effect make you change your mind?
- Hunger is the best spice. Give nutritional food to a child who hates this food while feeling hungry. Gradually the food will become acceptable. Same with people. When you are in a crisis your hated person might step in for help. One life example is somebody donating his blood to somebody who hated him. The two became close friends afterwards.
If we are open-minded all closed doors shall open for us.
Magnificent article. I really like the path from hatred and acceptance to the need to have an open mind.
Each relationship between us human beings is before anything else made up of Love and Hate and all their nuances.
Looking reality in the face and accepting that this is the case is what can set you free. This acceptance is not easy, but it is the only way to become honest and authentic.
For this purpose, if you want to make the most of your potential for success in interpersonal relationships, at work, in business and in life in general, it is important to be open-minded, flexible and out of the box.
It is necessary to think differently to get rid of one’s limitations. Open-minded people have a better chance of reaching their maximum potential in life because they know how to take risks, they know how to dare, they are not satisfied with the easier option. These people are constantly looking for something, are unconventional in the positive sense of the term and are willing to learn anything from anyone.
You never fail me with your comments and their deep understanding of what I wished to communicate.
As we train our tongues to like food so we may train our minds to accept people even if they are not “our cup of tea”.
You summarized the idea wonderfully well.
Brother Ali and Carolyn Lebanowski
I love the way you blend food and people
Increasing exposure adding in liked elements like spices.
The assumption with food is that we are always talking about nutritional food. With people we wouldn’t want to increase exposure to toxic people.
People throw around the word hate a bit promiscuously, I’m afraid. With food and with people. We see hate crimes in the world and the slaughter of innocents doesn’t easily compare to a preference not to eat beets.
Having said that we could all do with a little suspension of judgement with food and people.
Fantastic additional thoughts and quite relevant.
In particular your mention of the hate crime and its relevance to food.