I recently read a book titled ‘The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck’. At first, I was not sure that it was for me, then I was curious as to what the author had to say. And finally I read through it and I was pleasantly surprised! I love it when life, reading a book or trying something new turns out that way!
Perhaps in my younger years (like many of us) what I gave the most f*ck about was based on what was happening in the moment. I did not have a clue what my actions, words or thoughts had to do with the future. I hardly considered how they affected others. Sometimes I was in such dire circumstances that the only f*ck I gave was how to get from point A to point B. There was not a choice, I was simply surviving.
One of the benefits (I know, I know there are downfalls too!) to adulting is that we get to make choices as adults (I mean like a grown up not like just because I am 18 I am an adult). We can decide how to navigate our future. We can decide how to allow people and circumstances to affect us.
And that is where this notion of deciding what to give a f*ck about comes in handy. I feel like I have gone from these extremes to not giving a f*ck about many things because I was too overwhelmed, too scared, too shackled by my own limitations. To giving way to many f*cks about other people; their feelings and needs, the world in general (I’ve fought for some good causes) and too many things to list I have zero control over!
Now I have mastered (pretty much, for the most part) the balancing of what to give a f*ck about. And the best thing about it, is that it is my choice. If I don’t give a f*ck about something my friends, family or even the world does, I am still a good person. I am still OK. On the flip side of that is acceptance that others will not give a f*ck about what I do. Freeing. Very freeing.
Only you can choose what you give a f*ck about and how passionately that giving a f*ck is. Choose wisely, as the author Manson states. I love that idea. Choosing wisely. I choose according to my own values and beliefs. I choose according to what I am most passionate about. I choose based on ‘will this even matter in 5 years, or even by next week?’
Below is my review of the book. I am giving it out as holiday gifts. It is that important of a reminder for us all. We as individuals cannot change the world, but collectively we can make a positive impact. So do that. Make an impact by choosing what you truly give a f*ck about.