In This Solo Episode: Darlene Discusses:
From 1999 to 2014, the suicide rate for Caucasian women between ages 44 and 64 increased markedly by over sixty percent.
The variables involved are mixed.
Darlene believes connection and purpose are most important.
Connection decreases as we get older.
You must search for new ways to connect.
The Internet is a wonderful tool to explore avenues for connection and purpose.
There are many organizations which offer connection and/or purpose.
Purpose comes in many forms.
Remind yourself, that taking the first step is getting in the door. It may not be the right door for you…If you continue to search, you will find welcoming people.
The link between suicide and mental disorders (in particular, depression and disorders of alcohol use) is well established, but many suicides occur impulsively in times of crisis. Additional risk factors include experience of loss, loneliness, discrimination, relationship breakdown, financial problems, chronic pain and illness, violence, abuse and conflict or other humanitarian emergencies. Furthermore, experiencing conflicts, disasters, violence, abuse or loss and a sense of isolation are strongly associated with suicidal behavior. Suicide rates are high even among vulnerable groups suffering discrimination.
From Darlene: Thank you for your response. As I look at your background, I see human behavior is an interest but not the primary foundation of your professional endeavors. Thus, it appears you come from this intellectualized conclusion from studying and not professional application. Your statement is correct, however. Although many people who take their own lives suffer from mental illness, there are those who due to the unfairness in life situationally believe there is no alternative. Sadly, under different circumstances, they would not resort to this extreme, irreversible measure. Coming from a strength-based philosophy rather than pathology-based, I along with many other therapists do everything in our power to provide a beacon of hope which is most effective.
Even though I respectfully but strongly disagree with your definition of the role of a coach versus that of a therapist having been both, I applaud your interest in the subject matter.
Thank you for reading my comment. Your answer is exactly what I think. I am absolutely not a specialist in the field, as you rightly point out to me, I am a lover of human behavior only in the corporate organization, I also took university exams on this subject and I had only one chance to be interested in some pathological aspects as a lawyer, in a legal dispute between heirs of a suicide and the beneficiaries of his inheritance. However, I do not feel able to express certain opinions on the pathology of suicides. I limit myself to thinking that this act is such an extreme decision that I can only explain it to me as induced by a profound inner malaise. The causes of this malaise are not able to evaluate them.
I was pleased to meet in this discussion and I hope we will have other opportunities in the future. I love to learn and I enjoy people that share their knowledge and insights-
Such an important discussion, Darlene! I read something awhile back about loneliness and the stats show that we’re having fewer children, we know fewer neighbors, we have fewer close friends, more of us work remotely (thus, minimizing the collegial connections), and fewer people are affiliated with religious communities (decreasing faith-based connections).
I love your closing quote (and story) by George Eliot! Thank you for sharing this one!
From Darlene: Thank you Melissa! You are so right. Loneliness is definitely the main culprit as a result of more disconnection. I am pleased you like the quote. Yes, she was a trailblazer. By the way, I love your video nuggets. I look forward to them. ?
Thank you for those kind words about my Neuro Nuggets. You just made my day!
Very interesting podcast Darlene. It’s hard to pinpoint the growing numbers for depression or suicide with females, and so I would be out of place putting out theories. I will only pray for anyone, man, woman or child who is going through something difficult mentally or physically. I believe we all have issues that are painful or private, sometimes the hardest thing for people carrying that burden is learning to trust others…
From Darlene: Thank you Aaron for your thoughtful and empathic response. You are so right. People must find the right people to trust. When they have been wounded by many, it can be a challenge. I remind them that they are out there. Do not give up.?
Darlene, the suicide rate from 1999-2014 of Caucasion women between the ages of 44-64 increasing by a staggering 60 percent is a highly disturbing number. As an “older American (63 years of age) I do find making new connections or maintaining old ones has become decidedly more difficult. The internet is a wonderfully powerful tool that can be used to bring the world closer to you. While I am not an expert in your field I think taking that first step is the hardest part and for some can be an unpenetrable barrier. For your age group, there are bound to be social or religious organizations that do offer nights for people to meet for socialization and friendship. Being alone and living alone are not positive or productive recipes for a long and happy life. Thank you, Darlene, for writing and sharing your article. Perhaps after reading your article will see the world exists for them too.
From Darlene: Thank you Joel as always for your insightful and thought-provoking responses. I appreciate your input as well as your amazing articles.?
Darlene, I actually must apologize to you as parts of my response did not make sense not to mention contained mistakes. I tend to type while I am focusing on the next thought or sentence I am putting into the article which makes things confusing sometimes, I want to thank you for your kind and touching comment.
Thank you for sharing this, Darlene. The importance of creating meaningful, high quality connections with people in person and on social media continues to expand. Some would say that our future will be sourced by quality relationships with people-colleagues, beloved ones, even strangers we meet (for many of us were strangers until we met one another.) I appreciate you, the welcome you consistently create for many others to learn, grow, and contribute.
From Darlene: Hi Laura, thank you as always for your majestic words. I appreciate your comments as always as well as your thought-provoking, glorious articles.
Thank you for sharing this. I have a thing about door. If they are closed I have to open them. Great message.
Thank you so much Larry! I am so glad you agree. We need to keep opening the doors until the final one is in front of us. As always, I appreciate your input.?