by Ken Vincent, Featured Contributor
I HAD A young person ask that of me a few days ago. Well, at first blush that seemed like a pretty straight forward question. The obvious answers were: yes, no, maybe, sometimes. But, none of those felt right, so I said let me think about that and get back to you. So, here is where I came out after pondering the question.
Yes you can change some aspects of outward appearance. You can change how they do a given task. You can change how they talk or write. You can sometimes change their opinions. You can even change some of their habits. But, is that changing the person? I don’t think it is.
It seems to me that changing a person is an entirely different issue. It isn’t a matter of changing their outward aspects, but one of changing the core individual. Their innate abilities, their core beliefs, their personality, and emotional composition. Can that core be changed? I’m not sure it can be. I believe the leader has to work within those constraints and use them to get the desired end results. But, change them? I doubt it, and time spent trying will be time wasted and create a great deal of frustration for both parties.
What do you think? Is changing how people act, or how they perform, the same as changing the person?