I am in awe of people who go through a terrible loss with grace and strength, and don’t become hardened, resentful, closed off, or hate-filled. Maybe you’ve been through or are going through something so mind-shattering that you feel so shaken, so lost, so filled with emotions. Think of yourself as carbon about to become a diamond. You’re going to make a comeback and be bigger and better than before. Diamonds are special. No doubt about it. Carbon only turns into a diamond under very special circumstances. Great heat (stress) 2000 F and pressure (more stress). Who says stress is bad?
There are many people like this on LinkedIn I’ve come to know. LinkedIn is much more than ‘just a business platform.’ It’s a hub of people from every corner of the earth who meet, greet, and share a bit about themselves. Many are living examples of resilience in motion and transformed jewels. I’m not going to name them. I’m sure you know some. They took their ‘bad’ situation, overcame it, and became this awesome person who helps others in similar situations. That’s turning the tables on circumstance, isn’t it?
Transformation doesn’t happen overnight. Remember the caterpillar and how long it takes them to spin their cocoon? It’s a long process!
Then, the cocoon starts to open and the opening process is about as long as the spinning process! Very slowly the butterfly unfolds and dries its wings and that takes a long time too! The new butterfly sits in the sunlight (wisdom) and very slowly flaps its wings, (plans) seeming to not even want to fly (fly when you’re ready). They will, eventually, (confidence). All of this is a process and it takes time.
You see, we need things like butterflies and diamonds to remind us that we are not an alien anomaly. Human beings are resilient. We can face whatever comes our way. We can take a rotten situation and change it. We can grow and develop wings. We are awesome and brave. Think of the soldier, police officer, surgeon, firefighter—who were pushed to their physical, mental, and emotional limits with early morning, all-day training, and late-night shifts. They had moments where they thought they couldn’t go on. But many did because they dug deep and pushed themselves further. I look to people like this and think to myself: if they can do that, I can do whatever it is I want to do.
Tough times, toughen us. They can even define us and lead us to helping others. Keep being awesome, keep loving. It’s the only thing that matters.