The biggest gap in your life is between what you know and what you do.
– Bob Proctor
It is up to us to be a prisoner of our past, by remaining in it; or to be a champion of our future by building it. If your life path was to travel from one of these formations to the next one and so on to the end, how would you do it?
There is always a gap between intention and action.
– Paulo Coelho
You could anchor yourself and rappel down the mountain, then walk to the next peak and scale up that peak. Then cross the peak, rappel down the mountain and repeat over and over again.
We are human. We are not perfect. We are alive. We try things. We make mistakes. We stumble. We fall. We get hurt. We rise again. We try again. We keep learning. We keep growing. And we are thankful for this priceless opportunity called life.
– Unknown
Or, you could become a bridge builder. You could build a temporary bridge out of ropes or wood, or a bridge designed with stone or steel that would last for many years.
Listen to your heart. It knows everything.
– Paulo Coelho
Neither way is wrong or right. Just different choices. We could for sake of argument take opposing viewpoints on the better, faster way to walk this path. We could discuss how those that follow us would make better speed with some type of bridge. Or how scaling up each peak would define us, and make us stronger. For me, rock climbing would be facing the fear of falling to my death. It would test my faith in ropes, cords, carabineers, slings, anchors, and harnesses. At the end of the day, the analogy is that each of us has our own path of divine destiny to walk. There really isn’t a right or wrong way to walk the path. The lessons will come to us regardless of what we choose.
The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things.
– Rainer Maria Rilke
Some time ago I self-identified a pattern that I have. I call it one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas. It began with a childhood experience when I was four years old. I was very motivated to the best in school and when I was an adult to climb the corporate ladder. I was also very introverted and didn’t like to be seen and noticed. This pattern of drawing attention to myself by being a master at my job, and then shrinking back when I got the attention used to drive me crazy.
Mind the gap – it’s the distance between life as you dream it and life as it is.
– Cate Blanchett
I finally through years of self-improvement identified this pattern and starting working to shift and transform it. Every time I feel like I am walking in slow motion, or pushing a boulder uphill, I know that this pattern has reentered my life. It is an energetic signal that I am being blocked in some way. Have you ever had a project you wanted to complete and every time you sat down to work on it, you would remember something else you had to do? It might be an email that simply must be written and sent now. It might be laundry or dishes that have to be done. You notice a spider web on the ceiling that must be removed. You have to run to the store. Your mind is looking for something to distract you away from the project. Suddenly the whole day is gone and you didn’t work on it at all.
Put gaps in your life: moments to reflect, prepare, meditate and breathe.
– Jody Adams
The hardest thing to shift was being able to walk into a room and not be terrified of meeting and having conversations with strangers.
For whatever reason, your life pattern is trying to shift you away from the project. There is something about this project that it wants to avoid. In some manner, this project is pushing up against the boundaries you have set in your subconscious. It sees a danger, and so it works hard to gently distract you away from it. The completion of the project will in some way change and shift your life – it could be that you are aware of it, or it could be some unforeseen possibility that your subconscious wants to avoid. In my case, I started shifting the pattern first by writing these blogs. It felt safe because I am unseen and unknown to you. Then I started speaking on stages about my transformational work. This was also not too hard, because, with the lights on a stage, it is hard to see the audience. They aren’t up close and personal. The hardest thing to shift was being able to walk into a room and not be terrified of meeting and having conversations with strangers.
Negativity is born in the gap where love has been excluded Gaps occur in places where we are afraid to see ourselves.
– Deepak Chopra
What I have discovered though is that this pattern is really great at camouflaging itself. It has chameleon qualities. When I started with this Facebook page, I knew that I needed a website for the blog posts. Instead of 30 – 45 days it took me nine months and the hold ups were all from me. It took me months to actually sit down and start writing my first book. I am now creating a webinar series to go deeper and share my Transformational Compass™, as well as the launching of my first book and what we are calling our Ambassador program. Again “Cami” my life pattern of putting on the brakes has been showing up. The good news is that it is taking less time for me to recognize what she is doing and shift her efforts at slowing me down.
I may not have gone where I intended to go. But I think I have ended up where I needed to be.
– Douglas Adams
Many teach that we came into this life to have a certain experience. Mine seems to be dealing with this pattern of foot on the brakes when I am pushing hard on the gas to accomplish a goal. Now I recognize it has chameleon-like qualities. I know that when I feel like I am not progressing towards my goals, I have to go looking for that sneaky lizard.
Love is a beautiful thing to bring into the gap of life’s unknowns.
– Lysa TerKeurst
Here’s to sharing a meal with new friends and old friends. Here’s to roasting marshmallows and making smores around an outdoor fire pit. Here’s to turning off our phones and having a conversation.
Here’s to the space, the gaps, the pauses, the silence. Here’s to embracing five minutes of slow every day. Here’s to savoring that cup of tea, hot chocolate or glass of wine. Here’s to watching the wind in the leaves. Here’s to sitting in a swing and enjoying the feeling of flying as we swing up into the sky. Here’s to lying on a sandy beach and listening to the surf as the waves come into the shore and retreat back into the ocean. To the smell of the salt air and the cry of the seagulls. Here’s to lake fishing along the shoreline, casting out the line and sitting in companionable silence as you reel it back in and cast again. Here’s to listening to the laughter of our children and grandchildren. Here’s to sharing a meal with new friends and old friends. Here’s to roasting marshmallows and making smores around an outdoor fire pit. Here’s to turning off our phones and having a conversation.
The best thing in life is to go ahead with all your plans and your dreams, to embrace life and to live every day with passion, to lose and still keep the faith and to win while being grateful. All of this because the world belongs to those who dare to go after what they want. And because life is really too short to be insignificant.
– Charlie Chaplin
This life pattern is my GAP – Gods Area of Preparation. This is where I learn about new ways that my life pattern has shifted, and I learn new ways to build bridges to close that gap.
The winds of life will try and pull you off course. The space between your values and behavior is called the Integrity gap. It is the places where what you say you are doing and what actions are actually taking place, have a gap. It isn’t that you are purposefully not living in integrity. It is that sneaky chameleon who has disguised itself to put up roadblocks to the actions that you intend to do. Going back to places where you feel like you might have the brake and gas on at the same time. Once you recognize the patterns, it becomes easier and easier to remove the brakes and have your actions spring back into gear.
Can you see GAPs in your life pattern? Do you see where you need to learn to build bridges to close off the gap to get to your destination? Don’t be afraid to explore and discover what the broken pieces of you are trying to say. Mosaics at made from broken pieces, and they are a beautiful work of art. All of life experiences come together to create who we are. To expose the divine gifts we have, we rearrange the pieces to uncover the hidden treasures we have buried deep within us. To show us just how every shattered dream, served to provide just what was needed to move forward in strength.
Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not early as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy – the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.
– Brene Brown
Great story Sheryl. We can own it now or pay for it later
Excellent post, Sheryl – and such wonderful quotes!