I’m sure you’re wondering what a Coach is doing writing about Personal Growth being a trap. Surely this is a key part of my business?
Yes, you’re right personal growth, self-development, self-determination is all part of my business. Whether I’m working with you on a private basis, or through a corporate relationship, I am committed to your personal development and your success.
What I am NOT committed to is “ fixing you”, and you shouldn’t be either. Self-help is a massive business sector, which just keeps growing. It’s not committed to your success!
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In fact, it’s committed to your failure. The more you fail the more programs, books, courses you will buy
It only takes a quick survey of Social Media sites to see all of the resources offered to help you build your 7 figure business, to lose 20 lbs. in a month, to hustle your way to success, or, to” find yourself” at a far-flung retreat.
My question is: How can you focus on success when you are focused on fixing yourself? How can you take a risk when you don’t have the courage to go there if you’re not far enough in your self-development journey?
It’s that next book, that next retreat, that next podcast which will make the difference.
You’re waiting for the right moment, which never comes.
So I just want to say stop it.
I am totally in favour of learning, growing, challenging yourself, but, not because you feel inadequate. Do it for continuous learning, to expand your horizons, and so you can pay it forward. You can inspire others to become their best selves from a place of positivity.
If you’re stuck try these steps:
- Fail at something
The thought of failure is often more terrifying than failure itself. Once you’ve failed a few times you know it’s something you can get over, learn from and move on.
- Realize no one is watching your every move
We all think that people are watching us and evaluating our every move. Nope. Everyone is too busy thinking that people are watching them. So decide to “get over yourself”. Life is not Facebook highlight moments.
- Don’t try so hard
Have you ever noticed that when we try to force things, relationships, sales or other “shoulds” in our lives that it becomes harder instead of easier?
A good example is if you are meeting a dog for the first time….you have to wait for the dog to come to you….if you try to force it the dog will move away.
Don’t push people away.
Try these 3 things for a few weeks.
Take small steps forward, eliminate self-development “musts” from your thoughts, enjoy the day, make a difference is someone’s life through random acts of kindness, and laugh.
You can learn so much from the world around you when you focus externally instead of internally. At the same time, you can make someone’s journey better.
The self-development will take care of itself.