So how do you believe anything is possible? How do you see opportunity instead of risk? How do you take flying leaps into the unknown without having overwhelm knock you back down? We reframe the fear that is activating the belief that something is impossible. We reframe the fear that tells us what we want is too hard to do; that what we are thinking of doing is too risky. We reframe the fears that are creating the feeling of being overwhelmed.
You know what the issue is with this world? Everyone wants a magical solution to their problem, and everyone refuses to believe in magic.
– Alice in Wonderland
Reframing is one of those things that is both simple and hard at the same time. Every hero story needs a villain. Something to overcome. We think that we would all love the easy answers. A perfect life with a GPS system that told us where to go and what to do. But in reality, that would be very boring and we would feel like we were living a caged life because we were not given the freedom to make our own decisions.
Stop worrying how it’s going to happen and start believing that it will.
It begins with our having faith that what we are looking for is possible. That what we have been searching for in a dark cave with a book of matches for a light is just ahead and everything will be OK, even though we only have one match left. It is plain and simple a leap of faith into the unknown. That belief that we will land on something that will hold our weight so that we can continue our journey.
The strongest factor for success is self-esteem: Believing you can do it, believing you deserve it and believing you’ll get it.
Have you ever been going somewhere with the GPS system in your car telling you where to go? If you are going on a long trip and you get off the freeway to eat, take a bio-break or get fuel for your vehicle it goes crazy trying to get you back on the scheduled directions. Reframing is taking our GPS system which is telling us to go from point A to point B and reprogramming it for some additional stops. Places on the map that are invisible but there just the same.
Just because the past didn’t turn out like you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better than you ever imagined.
Have you ever completed a big remodel project? You start out with a plan and design of how everything will be done. You start tearing down the bathroom walls and floor and you discover that your $10K remodel just changed to a $20K remodel because all of the plumbing is cast iron and has to be replaced because in the past 50 years it has a decayed.
It’s okay to be a glow stick. Sometimes we have to break before we can shine.
That’s what life changes are like. You start out thinking that you want to make a small change in your life. You get started taking down all of the things that no longer benefit you in your life and you discover a pattern you didn’t know existed, (which has behind the scenes) is what has been keeping you from making those important life changes.
Never underestimate the power of dreams and the influence of the human spirit. We are all the same in this notion: The potential for greatness lives within each of us.
– Wilma Rudolph
Your small change just became a major remodel because you need to reframe this life pattern so that it doesn’t continue to let fear of change, of overwhelm, of not being good enough, to continue to define who you are. The good news is that this reframing of your life means growth, and growth signifies change is finally happening. You discover your hidden potential for greatness is an area that you never knew existed.
Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe the one reason it will.
What’s important during a period of reframing is to “see” or create a vision of what exactly you want your life to look like. What sort of bathroom floor do you want? What kind of tile for the shower floor and the walls of the shower? What kind of lights and fixtures? What kind of vanity? What does your ideal dream bathroom look like? Don’t focus on the plumbing issues. Don’t let the cost overruns overwhelm you. Reset your focus to see the ideal outcome, the end of the project, the finished bathroom.
A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.
– David Brinkley
Reframing looks at what everyone else might see as a series of mistakes and failures. Instead by reframing it we see a series of lessons. Each one building on the other. Taking each of these “bricks” being thrown at us – both by others as well as our negative fear infested minds – we instead begin building a secure foundation to hold the structure we are making outside our comfort zone by accomplishing our goals.
The only limits you have are the limits you believe.
– Wayne Dyer
As a professional procrastinator, I will take something that might take anyone else a few hours to do and blow it up into a month if not years project. First by doing research and more research, and then a little bit more because you can never have too much knowledge. Then by creating a perfect plan, and then revising it a million times because it just needs one more tweak because you can’t have too much attention to the smallest detail. I build up the fear of failure until it creates to bridge to the moon. Then because I can’t hold back time any longer I am pushed to finally do something.
Do not let the waves of doubt wash away your authentic self.
What if I reframe the possible mistake or failure? What if I reframe everything that has gone wrong already and that will go wrong in the future? What if, instead of letting doubt control my life, I look at everything as just an experiment? What if, instead of being afraid, I am curious? What if every project is like taking a beacon of water and adding a drop of this chemical or that one to see what happens and writing down the results in a notebook? What if this is just a series of lessons rather than errors? What if I give myself the freedom to learn each lesson and just keep creating the next experiment?
Life is like the ocean. We can’t control the tide, so we might as well learn to surf.
If I am going to learn to surf through my life, how can I learn to catch the perfect wave? What is the perfect wave? Come and take a peek at our next conscious conversation all-around “Catching The Perfect Wave”.
Turn the tide on mediocrity. Break free of the riptide of your past. Start living from a “bucket list” instead of existing with a “to do” list.