Not long ago I had to drive 3 hours in torrential rain. When I finally made it home, I was completed wiped. Such intense concentration coupled with heightened anxiety took its toll. Being in survival mode is the most exhausting thing in the world.
I think in life we’re either doing one of two things, we’re either surviving or we’re becoming.
Surviving is fear-based. It’s that human instinct to stay alive. Its master is the amygdala and it lives in fight, flight or freeze. Its mantras are “us against them,” “it’s not fair,” “why me,” and “I shouldn’t have to.” It robs us of joy, hope, self-efficacy, confidence, energy, and impact.
Becoming forces us to braille our way forward. To always be thinking and feeling and learning and growing. Questioning. Adjusting. The possibility of our best-self lighting the way but always out of reach. Becoming is rooted in responsibility. Responsibility to ourselves and the person we can be and responsibility for the impact we have on others and the world around us. While it requires constant motion, it is regenerating. Becoming fuels our soul.
Do you wish to survive or become?
There are times in life when we are forced to fight for our very survival. When the obstacles against us are so overwhelming that we have no choice. But I think perhaps the greatest challenge we face is in fighting for what we can become. In the midst of life’s challenges and heartache, how do we emerge from the storm with hope for a better tomorrow?
We become better.