Be Yourself – An Original Is Worth More Than A Copy

Mother Nature freely expresses herself every day, and she doesn’t apologize for it. Most of us learn at an early age what we are taught as “good manners”. Good girls are seen, but not heard. Don’t express a different opinion. Never contradict an authority figure, even if they are wrong. And so on, and so on.

Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed and rearranged to relocate us to the place we are meant to be.

  – Unknown

Have you ever been in a building like a lighthouse when a really strong storm comes into shore?  The whole cliff shudders and shakes.  The waves are so strong it can actually tear apart the bedrock foundation of the lighthouse.  Sometimes we have so bought into being the story of pretending to be someone else, that we have totally forgotten who we really are.  It takes a severe storm to shake up and uproot our life, to bring us back to who we are and what our purpose In life is.

I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.

  – Dr. Steve Maraboli

I love the writing of Don Miguel Ruiz and his book The Four Agreements. The Four Agreements have more to them than this, but this gives you a taste of them.

Be impeccable with your word – I love how it includes not speaking against yourself. How many times have you called yourself dumb or stupid?

Don’t take anything personally – what people say and do is a projection of their own reality, not yours.

Don’t make assumptions – this is for me the most important thing, as we assume we know what someone else is thinking and they think they know what we are thinking and the truth is that most of the time we are having two totally different conversations.

Always do your best – this is the only way to avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Tear off the mask  Your face is glorious.

  – Rumi

Don’t be afraid to be who you are.  Don’t let fear convince you that you are less than you really are.  What people think about you is really none of your business.  What you think about yourself should be your primary concern.  Be the best you can be, and when you make a mistake (like we all do) then own it.  Clean up anything that needs to be cleaned up and move on.  Don’t pack it in your suitcase and carry the weight of it around for the rest of your life.  That kind of baggage creates limitations and keeps us in a cage afraid to be who we are.  When you have reached the place, where you no longer require validation from others as to who you are, what your gifts are – that is when you become the most feared person on the planet.

If you find yourself asking yourself (and not your friends) Am I really a writer?  Am I really an artist?  Chances are you are.  The counterfeit innovator is wildly self-confident.  The real one is scared to death. 

  –  Steven Pressfield

Reveal your authentic essence, the part of you that isn’t watered down.  This is what makes you a “one of a kind” authentic original human being.  The world, especially the social networking world. will judge you for who you are. So why not just be what makes you happy?  Be proud of who you’ve become.  Hug yourself with both arms and be passionate about how you live your life.

It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.[su_spacer]
  – E.E. Cummings[su_spacer]
When we pretend to be someone that we aren’t, we are only hurting ourselves.  This habit that we have of saying what we think others want to hear, is what leads to so much miscommunication.   The mask we put on talks to the mask he puts on and no one talks to the real people behind the mask.  Miguel Ruiz really speaks to the removing of these masks we create in our lives.[su_spacer]
Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything.  Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.[su_spacer]
  –  Unknown[su_spacer]
Your inner core contains your true self.  You don’t have to find it, you just need to let it out.  You are a magical being, a miraculous soul put here on this earth, in this time and space for a reason.  Your soul is calling out to the universe.  You are a vital piece of what the world needs now.  When you own who you are, you are able to enjoy every magical step of your personal journey.[su_spacer]
When it seems that everything you do is wrong and everyone is against you – it is the best time to wear our “I-don’t-give-a-damn” tutu.  Glide gleefully in the dance floor of “this is me and my life”.[su_spacer]
  – Dodinsky[su_spacer]
So the best advice is taken from the moon – be yourself and blow some minds – and if you make some waves, just provide some beach towels.  When you show up authentic, you create the space for others to do the same.  So walk in your truth, and don’t be afraid to make some waves.

Sheryl Silbaugh
Sheryl Silbaugh
SHERYL Silbaugh is a writer, speaker, and transformational coach. She is a Director at Bank of America. She is the founder of created to inspire people to transform grief into gold. In April 2010, Sheryl suffered the loss of her nephew, who was randomly killed by a gang member. The idea of LemonadeMakers came from her grief. She experienced firsthand the creative power of transformation. She started a small Facebook presence that has grown from 500 followers in July 2015 to over 47,300 in March 2017. She demonstrates how to take life’s lemons and make lemonade. She is a skilled guide for those experiencing transition or loss. When we let go of what no longer serves us, and open ourselves to our soul’s calling, we uncover the treasures of our experience and can let the rest blow away on the winds of healing. She aims to support people to create transformation in every area of their lives. She provides insights on how to collaborate together to manifest their dreams in The LemonadeMakers Club. She teaches how to explore our inner and outer world to see what needs to be transformed. She is gifted in her ability to see patterns in human behavior and asks just the right questions to start unlocking the doors to your life purpose and the unique personal genius that we all have. Her book, “Timeless Treasures” will be published the summer of 2017, a collection of over 90 essays on transformation.




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