Be the Person You Can Be

Someone once told me the definition of hell; on your last day on earth, the person you could have become will meet the person you became.

~ Anonymous

So, I spend my days trying to be the person that I am going to be happy to meet on my last day on earth.

And that means being honest with myself about myself – the good, the bad, and the ugly.

It means not being defined by a label, a job, a failure, or a success, but being defined by the very essence of me – my values, desires, strengths, weaknesses, hopes, and fears.

It means not being afraid to share who I am with the world – because it is my quirks, my imperfections, and my truth that makes me worth having.

And that is why I do not cultivate a professional persona – I am just me with a bunch of skills and experience thrown on top, which you may or may not find of use and that’s ok.

Because I am not just what I do, I am not defined only by a job title, which is good news as I do not really have one – I am made up of all of the things that I do, I think, I believe, I feel, I have experienced and so much more, that will definitely take me beyond the Linkedin word count and that of any mere human’s concentration span, including my own.

I simply do not want to turn up at work or anywhere for that matter, pretending or hiding, or carrying the heavy burden of shame, or disappointment, or resentment, or envy or even worse, of not being enough for myself or for others.

My challenges in life, my weaknesses, my vulnerabilities, do not limit my ability to perform my professions, they add to it, because they make me more real, more able to connect with others through the universal experience we all have, whether we admit it or not, of human messiness.

So, my world is a mixture of all that I am, all that I do, all that I see, and all that I connect with.

And once we can truly accept and embrace that, for ourselves and others, I believe that we will achieve much more for diversity and equality in all aspects of life, than any of the initiatives we have seen to date – and more importantly, our world will be so much nicer, interesting, kind and easier to be in.

So, in the words of K.Flay:

Mainly, I hope to inspire honesty. We live in a space where so much can be manipulated, and so much is expected to be manipulated – curated, contrived, edited. I think that’s a real detriment to self-expression and happiness in a lot of ways. In my mind, honesty and vulnerability are the way forward.

And I hope that all of these words will inspire others to embrace all that they are both publicly and privately, because that’s how we really change our reality to a far truer, more meaningful, and more sustainable world for all.


Nik Davis
Nik Davis
NIK DAVIS is a business transformation expert and has spent 20 years in the corporate world. Her comfort zone is order, logic and applying analytical tools to solve complex problems. She is also a keen observer of life, a writer and eccentric. Nik has recently returned to the world of work after taking a career break to spend time with her family. Upon her return, she found that her perspective had changed, as had the world she was returning to. Nik decided to carve out a new place in that world and mould some of it to fit her too. Nik sees life from quirky angles, shaped by experiences and the vast amount of knowledge we now have access to. She likes to write about her experiences and observations. To ‘tell it how it is’ and to find a more authentic way to live, whether in our professional or personal lives. Nik often talks about finding ‘The Third Way’. It’s a philosophy about life, having a personal life as well as a career, making money and being socially generous, being logical and sensitive, living by the rules of a society but not being afraid to challenge them, inspiring others to feel good but not for your own ego, giving rather than taking. Nik wants to make a difference to this world by getting people to see things differently, to try new ways of working but most of all, to re-discover our true selves and therefore reach our true potential. Nik also has two other persona’s: nikdavis which is where Nik writes about her deeply personal experiences of life. Nik runs a facebook group alongside this website to create a safe place for people to discuss the topics that are raised in her blog. Nik’s second persona is Lilly Isabella and this is where she shares her passion of fashion and design.

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