Once again I start an essay describing my old school days at Kingwell Court Boarding School in 1956; ten years’ old (ten years’ young!). Located in beautiful estate near Bradford Upon Avon, Wiltshire, the actual building goes back to the early 1800s Kingwell Court School’s motto was ‘Be Strong Gently’, featuring an Indian elephant, trunk down in calm posture. Indian elephants do tend to project almost an air of tranquility, although doubtless there are times when the ears flap and trunks waive in supremacy and determination.
As a school kid when taught about the significance of such a motto; Indian elephant and words inseparably combining to form a tangible message of both Peace and Strength.
One of the teachers was an Indian Siek. During one lesson, he unwrapped his turban (if I remember, it was blue) and showed us how his hair was intwined before replacing the turban, wrapping it around his head. A truly fascinating experience. Both words, strong and gentle seem so apart, remote and even conflicting. On the contrary. They combine to deliver a most pristine message to humanity.
Looking back at those school days such a message embedded in every day life, indeed became a strong element in my life, and always has been. To achieve a solution to a problem without being aggressive, strength can be interpreted in a number of ways. When united with ‘gentle’ the synergy becomes apparent and meaningful.
In essence what does it mean?
Strength projects firmness but not necessarily overt aggression between people. Gentility. Empathy but not weakness. Standing up to one’s beliefs without creating acrimony.
I am proud that especially my son, has always adopted such a posture.
A posture of Strength and Gentle manner. It serves him well.
