Open your heart to new adventures.
Finding yourself, who you truly are under all of the masks takes as long as it takes. I started this journey over 20 years ago when my mom passed away. I am still learning new things about myself. I know that really nothing is a “one and done” process. I’ve come to believe at least for myself that it is a life long process. The trick is to be really kind and compassionate to yourself.
If you stumble, make it part of the dance.
You can’t be so afraid of messing up that you are not willing to take a chance on yourself. And when you fall off the bridge and down the ravine, and you will do it many times, it is the realization that each time you climb back up to the bridge, you are growing into your full potential.
Blessed are the curious, for they shall have adventures.
My “go to” for a lot of my life was to feel self-doubt so badly about myself, that I was paralyzed into not trying. I decided one day that I just didn’t want to do that anymore. When you decide to live life from a place of curiosity, the risk of failing isn’t such a scary thing. You learn through grace and compassion a new sense of freedom. You begin to understand how freeing it is to fail the first time. You don’t disappear or die from it. And once you have got that initial failure under your belt, you have freed up your imagination to wonder if doing it this way, or that way might result in something totally fun.
Listen to your own voice, your own soul, too many people listen to the noise of the world, instead of themselves. Deep inside, you know what you want, let no one decide that for you.
There becomes a point in growing and exposing more and more of oneself that you have to decide if you remain in the new “box” that you have created as a comfort zone or you want to continue to evolve more and more into who you are. You have to decide to continue down the road you recognize or you start down a new path.
Your purpose in life will become clear when you cease looking outside for answers and start listening to the silent and omnipresent voice of the heart.
In all the fairy tales, when the journey starts out the sun is shining, the birds are singing and the path is clear. But at some point in the journey, the path seems like it might even disappear. The darkness starts creeping in and obscuring what can be seen. The sights and sounds take on a sinister aspect. You know the challenge is about to appear. This happens because the inner world is very protective and has learned to hide who and what you are down deep inside. It has become the scary monster under the bed, and you are under the covers hiding so as to not be noticed.
Too many people live too much in the past. The past must be a springboard, not a sofa.
– Harold MacMillan
When you take up your shield of courage, something new and unexpected will catch our eye. Growth happens with change. It requires change. There is something valuable hidden within each of us that is worth unearthing. You might not be able to name what it is, but you can hear its voice calling softly. You have to be willing to challenge and fight the monster under the bed to unearth it. Every day, every hour, we get to decide we are worth the battle to bring it up and expose it to the light. Your soul is hoping and praying that you’re willing to set it free.
As a flower craves the light of the sun to grow, we desperately need the light of our souls to become who were destined to become.
Through our life, we have created patterns that we tell ourselves is the path to freedom. Most of the time these patterns are actually chains, shackles or cages. It is a false freedom based on fear of exposing who we really are. It is like throwing a bedspread over dirty blankets or sheets – it looks good from above and we may look like we have our life together, but underneath it is a hot mess. It is a facade of freedom.
The greatest act of human courage isn’t climbing mountains, conquering countries, or fighting in wars; it is walking into the mysterious abyss of one’s own inner self and truthfully face one’s own pain and tortured Shadow.
True freedom exposes everything up to the light, the good, the bad and the ugly. Recognizing and changing the patterns in our lives is what frees us from the chains we have wrapped around our souls. At any moment we have the power to change our story. Each second we can decide to put the key in the lock of our safe cage and release ourselves to be who we really are.
I’m not weak or a mess. I’m a deeply feeling person in a messy world. It takes strength to face and feel what few other people have the courage to acknowledge.
When you aren’t trying to outrun failure, success takes on a whole new meaning. Fear loses its foothold and instead of being the monster under the bed, it becomes the worn out teddy bear missing part of one ear and both eyes. When we believe that we win, that there is no loss or tie – then the bottom line is that we have expanded our comfort zone. We learned something new and valuable.
The Free Spirit,
The Loner Wolf,
The Black Sheep,
The Eccentric . . ,
These all are synonyms and the people who relate with any of these belong to the same Soul Group.
Failure is just part of the dust that gets into everything when we are walking down the dirt road. Sometimes it’s like the rock that we need to stop and remove from our shoe. It might slow us down, it might get us really dirty, but it never has to stop us from putting that shoe back on, getting back up and walking down the road again. Success is found on the road as we walk it.
I am willing to embrace the inner trust I have to ensure all I want – is given the opportunity to unfold.
We have to draw a line between all of the connecting points in our life. If we fail to connect all of the points, then we are missing out. We won’t fully comprehend what has happened, what doors of opportunity were opened that we walked by without seeing. We won’t see how the challenges exposed us to growth that wouldn’t have been possible without them. It fully exposes you to the challenge and opportunity of growth in ways that you can’t even imagine if you didn’t walk across the bridge.
If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself. If you want to eliminate the suffering in the world, then eliminate all that is dark and negative in yourself. Truly, the greatest gift you have to give is that of your own self-transformation.
– Lao Tzu
Asking yourself what do I want to do next? What challenge or opportunity is waiting behind the next corner to change and transform my life? To actually completely engage in a life of exploration, curiosity, believe in what else is possible? If you want to go beyond the surface of answering these questions, join us in our next “Catching The Perfect Wave” online course. We dive deeply into exploring transformation and listening to our soul’s voice with weekly group calls to go beyond the simple answers and explore what we all have hiding beneath the surface.