Kalyani Pardeshi
Kalyani Pardeshi is a CPA based in Canada who is an anti-bullying specialist. She grew up in apartheid South Africa and was sent away to a boarding school out of the country. It was the only way to ensure she received an education that wasn’t determined by her race. One consistent theme in her life was that wherever she went, bullying seemed to follow her, but she refused to be broken down by her tormentors. Being in boarding school meant that she not only went to school with her bullies, but she also lived with them too. She self-developed tools to help her nip bullying in the bud because the anti-bullying techniques taught in school were ineffective. Using her own tools, she took her power back. Kalyani authored and self-published “Unbullied: 14 Techniques to silence the critics, externally and internally” in which she shares the very techniques that helped her combat bullying. Her book has won three international awards including The Book Excellence Finalist Award. She uses her experiences and what she has learnt from them to equip teenagers with customized tools of their own to combat bullying and heal the scars thereof because she firmly believes that it is easier to mould a child than it is to mend an adult. Furthermore, Kalyani grew up in a home where she was led to believe that she had to earn her worth and value because she was born a girl. She developed a deep lack of self-worth because of these experiences. This led to her bullying herself to prove her worth and value just to be loved and accepted until she finally burnt herself out doing so. Recognising the many ways in which she was bullying herself, she embarked on a mission to put an end to her inner bullying behaviours through simple, actionable techniques because self-love affirmations didn’t solve her problem. She now specializes in identifying ways in which we bully ourselves in the name of motivating ourselves and combatting this inner critic/bully. These presentations/keynotes are available for teens and adults.
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Do You Care What Others Think?
"Do you believe that caring about what others think of you is good for your mental health?" ...
When Advocates Become Perpetrators: The Complex Reality of Bullying
"If those who are advocating for anti-bullying aren’t practicing what they preach, where does this leave the rest of us?" ...
What is Self-Bullying?
"How do you approach goals? Are you bullying yourself into achievement by disguising it as motivating yourself?" ...
An Underrated Cause of Burnout
"Operating outside of one’s Uniqueness is the same as filling the gas tank in a car with jet fuel." ...
What Will People Say?
"Becoming more and more of my authentic self has shown me so many things." ...
Why Solving Bullying Could Possibly be Making it Worse
"The basic anti-bullying messages haven’t changed, nor have they been updated yet the bullying continues. Clearly, something isn’t working." ...
Why Words Cause More Damage than Sticks and Stones
"Words cause more damage than sticks and stones ever will. What you say to a child becomes their inner voice, their self-belief system, it affects their intellect, so please choose your words wisely." ...
What if Self-Love Isn’t the Answer?
"Why did these techniques work for others but didn’t for me? What needed to change? What if self-love isn’t the answer? Then what was it?" ...