Although the arrogant do not like anyone (except to themselves of course), the world is full of it and we have to do it every day. We have been dealing with it since the morning when we are in the queue in the car and they cut us off the road insulting us until the evening when we take public transport and tug us away. It is all and only arrogance and, if only we try to answer and to have our say, they have always and only their reason!
The arrogant are those who always do all the tricks, that is, they know everything about them, and they never let you talk about why we all tend to relate as little as possible with such people. The reason we always try to keep ourselves away from the arrogant is explained by evolutionary psychology which shows how the human being always tends to relate and help sincere and kind people because below it is expected that tomorrow they will do the same for us, this explains why kindness always generates kindness see the article. But the arrogant ones, even though they do not like anyone (apart from themselves), most of the time they benefit from this negative characteristic; even it would seem that the advantages in being arrogant are as many as 5, (as shown by research at the University of Michigan that studied arrogance in the workplace).
Arrogance expresses anger and more often than not anger frightens those in front of it, bringing benefits only to those who express it and not to those who suffer it.
The arrogant people are not kind and so they are difficult people and the difficult people are not very popular, but this only plays in their favor, because with such people it is always better not to discuss and let it go, and you almost always end up giving it to them.
Arrogant people are dominant and dominance brings subjection which in turn brings power and power leads to success especially with the other sex.
Arrogant people believe – because they are convinced of this – that they are superior and better than others and, by convincing themselves, they will be able to convince even those in front of them.
The arrogant people do not discuss putting the problem at the center but they argue directly attacking those in front of them. This is a real intimidation that scares everyone by giving even more power to the arrogant colleague on duty.
Among other things, it is almost always an arrogant person to practice bullying because it is typical of the arrogant to want to excel at the expense of the weaker.
In other words, although arrogance is a deplorable characteristic, it often brings advantages to those who practice it, because it is able to intimidate those in front of it by undermining its self-esteem.
But this does not mean arrogance is always successful because, as researchers claim, it can be countered and the first weapon we can use against an arrogant is to group and isolate it. Or, we must keep our distance and avoid discussing because the clash is what arrogants seek and want. Or, again, to be aware that they are the arrogant ones to have a problem and not us, and therefore if we really want to answer we can answer them with a humorous joke.
Yours is a very thought-provoking article Aldo – Thank you for sharing this.
We face Arrogance in all of its unbecoming traits and forms almost every single day. It is very disturbing to note that arrogance plays into bullying the persons thought to be weaker. Overcoming arrogance is not easy, but if we want to live in a more ‘tolerant society’ where we are not only open-minded but willing to learn from others, we need to balance humility and conviction. We can start by looking past ourselves — and admitting that we don’t know it all.
“The opposite of humility is arrogance–the belief that we are wiser or better than others. Arrogance promotes separation rather than community. It looms like a brick wall between us and those from whom we could learn.” John Marks Templeton
“Arrogance is a self-defense tactic to disguise insecurities.” Caroll Michels
Thank you for reading and above all for the enlightening considerations you add.
I really appreciate your kind attention to my posts.
Thank you kindly Aldo. I enjoyed reading your post
Aldo – Like a wise mentor, you share your experience to allow the reader to learn and grow. I especially like how at the end, you mentioned using humor to disarm the arrogant – something I have used often. Thanks for sharing, my friend.
Thank you Len first of all for following me, and for comments.
Humor and self-irony are fundamental in life but also in work. Many, too many times, a work environment is heavy precisely because of the mask of excessive seriousness that we want to impose on ourselves.
Humor helps to restore right proportions to different aspects of reality.
But be careful to two thing:
humor must be born from our depth and not be a facade attitude that would serve little to free us from existential angst;
humor changes a lot from person to person and also from country to country, so what for someone is fun is not said to have the same effect on someone else.
Aldo – My pleasure to read and engage with you through this forum. And your advice concerning the appropriate use of humor is absolutely correct. Thanks.