Anger does some good in your life.
It lets you know that you are alive. Long-term anger affects your nervous system, your liver, and your brain. You can become hypertensive, depressed, volatile, and even forgetful. People become mean-spirited bullies and descend into disturbing acts.
Not depressed, not laying around in bed all day, but alive.
It is a beginning. A reminder – anger has a spectrum, going from irritability to rage. To create a plan to move away from angry people is the best tactic to take to save yourself. Rage does no one any good but being irritated or frustrated or dismissive or critical is still a sign that life is within.
What can you do if you are feeling cranky, judgmental, or anxious?
Change your routine. People do not change; the outside circumstances do. Decide to change your patterns and habits to get out of the cranky rut. Get up in the morning at a different time each day for a week. This will help break the cranky groove in your brain.
Eat lunch for breakfast and vice versa. Again, you want to create new, safe grooves in your brain, and in your body.
Stay away from people who rub you the wrong way. If there is someone in your life that comes close to enraging you, end that relationship. If you can handle being polite and respectful, you are home free.
You can do this. No one says (and who cares if they do) that you had to accept rage in your life.
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Many thanks, Dennis Pitocco for publishing this post! Cheers!
Many thanks Simon Lever for your insights. The only way to curb your anger is to change your routine. This may not be enough, but just keep going!
Dear Joanne,
Such wise words. It is often only when a third party presents the potential background to anger that the way to deal with terribly negative emotion can be addressed.
Anger is brought about by as you say, individuals who just want to wind you up the wrong way. They could be bullies and as such, to be avoided. You don’t want them to get a kick out if your anger. Anger can if course be self generated. For example, dropping a favorite glass or walking in some dog excrement in your best shoes!
I agree, a change if routine would help and avoiding individuals who see you as a contented individual, where their mission is to annoy you because they are jealous. Such individuals are weak. Their weakness can only be disguised by putting up a guard to and essentially bullying. That’s what bullies do.
Super article Joanne